Georgina (who is wired very differently from regular folks) asked me the very same question when she was four years old. On the eve of her fourth birthday, when we were preparing the party bags, the finger food, the hats and the balloons, she asked, "If nobody comes to my birthday party, will it still be a party?"
In all the turmoil though, it is so important to have time out. As a person, it is your basic right to have a bit of time to yourself. Self-importance and well-being are vital in being a good parent. If you are frazzled, the household will be frazzled. Kids sense tension and will just play up more. It is a vicious circle.
In a day or two, almost 70,000 four-year-olds will be starting school and it's a big day in everyone's life. I'm 53 and I can still remember my first day at school! Your child is very likely to be anxious about their first day and it's important that you prepare your little ones well. I've given my top tips for preparation below.