One thing I've discovered about pregnancy and motherhood is that it opens the doors to a world of bitchiness, jealously and judgement. The 'NCT mums' as I call them are quite possibly the worst breed of female I have ever come across. It wasn't long before I was shamed for leaving my little ones, namely Indigo my 10 week old new born, why the new born was deemed more important than the 6 year old was slightly baffling, but never mind!
Sometimes my world feels as though it's become very small, but today I don't feel quite so insignificant after all.
But seeing my baby move, even if was to someone else's annoyance, was incredible. "You see baby art?" said Dr Manuel, pointing at the screen to a beating white splodge in the centre of my baby's chest.
For me the path to adoption was very similar, it took two years and one week from the initial meeting until the first day of introductions. In honesty it felt so much longer and this was within the new speeded up adoption process.
Fact: I am a step child. Another fact: More than once in my life I have been told not to refer to myself in this way. Why is there an aversion to using this phrase? What is the problem with acknowledging I am a step child with step relatives? It is, after all, merely a statement of fact.
Up until the 1970's, life as a woman was quite simple (if not very equal, but that is another debate). In the main, you got married, you had a child and you stayed at home to raise them and take care of the home while your husband went out to work.
The one piece of advice I can give to anyone who has been adopted, is to be proud. Proud to be where you are today, to have been saved from that horrible beginning of your life, proud of how brave the people who took you in were, and ignore all the ridiculous comments of people who are too closed-minded to understand all of this.
Sadly though, there are still those men in the world who do not respect females. Those who are selfish and greedy and think they can take what they want without a second thought for the feelings and dignity of others.
The few children's books I've found that feature breastfeeding tend to be ones that are specifically about breastfeeding or attachment parenting more generally; in other words, someone would have to already be passionate about breastfeeding to seek out these texts
There are two types of mom friends. Those that will support, nurture and encourage. Then there are those who will criticise, throw self-doubt around like it's confetti and make you question every decision you ever made.
The ultimate joy you feel when potty trained becomes toilet trained. It's great isn't it? The utter pride you feel boasting to everyone when it's complete? Well I now know that those comments of "Oh that's brilliant, makes life much easier for you now!", are quite frankly, utter crap!
It's actually quite depressing how little the world cares about accessibility and accessible toilets. There are so many campaigners doing all that they can to encourage and promote Changing Places and Space To Change facilities.
Up until my daughter had been diagnosed with eczema, our parenting path had been as expected, with sleepless nights and nappy explosions and projectile vomiting and earth-shattering screaming. All standard baby behaviour. But the eczema had caught us off guard.
By stating that I wish my child didn't have autism, it's not wishing I didn't have him. Neither is it saying I have no love for the person he is. It's simply saying that if I had a choice where I knew my child would have less chance of being bullied, ridiculed, would sleep better and also be able to converse with me, find his true love, get a job and have children - then of course I would choose that for him.
So who is the best person in the school to approach for help in this instance and how can you make the most of the meeting time? Also, what can you ask the school to consider doing to practically support your child?
But you need to look beyond the spit and polish of the open day to find the right school for your child. Here are some key things to think about when selecting the first choice school for your child: