We all have our own way of doing things, our own internal rule book, if you like, and we don't take too kindly to other people or situations messing that up. Holding on to a set vision in the face of challenging circumstances is, in most cases, a sure path to disappointment, anger, resentment and a variety other negative emotions.
Last year while watching Wimbledon on TV, a well known American tennis player mentioned how, after losing a game, her first thought was 'Next point.' I was rather taken with this attitude/approach. It kind of sums up how I coach - I focus on what's next, rather than what's happened. As you know, we can't change our past, but we certainly can influence our future.
If we plotted your 'well-being' (ie, your emotions) during the week, you'd have a natural high point and a natural low point. Your high is when you've got bags of enthusiasm, a twinkle in your eye and a grin on your face. Life feels good. You are flourishing. The other end of the spectrum is the low level you.
Negative comments. We all get them. Not many of us enjoy them, but the majority of us can take the rough with the smooth. However, there is always that one statement (the straw that breaks the camel's back, if you will) that forces us to snap. To respond. To cause an issue. But what makes us do this? And why can't we take a step back, a deep breath, and realise that it's not that big a deal?
Inspiring people come in all shapes and sizes and from all walks of life. The people you choose as friends often inspire you. They lift you up instead of drag you down. Share your daily achievements with others and let them share theirs with you, and you never know who you might inspire next or who might tell you something that changes your life.