Raising Children

Don't Leave Your Child Wounded, This Isn't Your Movie

Chris Good | Posted 17.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Chris Good

If there was a parenting rulebook, I would unashamedly campaign for this to be in the top 5; because if it offends some parent, somewhere, to be challenged on this point, I'd suggest they put their reproductive organs in some blending device and feed them to the family dog...because they shouldn't use them for anything else.

When Saying Sorry to a Child Does More Harm Than Good

Alexandra Massey | Posted 29.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Alexandra Massey

Having been one of those parents who had practiced this many times, until someone gently pointed out how I was coming across, I've now stopped. This one time I'm talking about is when I've said 'I'm sorry' but what I really wanted was relief from my own uncomfortable feelings of being a dysfunctional parent or to be allayed of my guilt.

Three Things That Make Kids Happier Every Day

Alexandra Massey | Posted 26.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Alexandra Massey

I used to vex about how happy my children were, and still do sometimes, but with experience I've come to realise that their fundamental needs are very simple. They want to be heard, loved and given some special time. If I give them these three things every day, they thrive. So I do everything I can to ensure I make that happen and I know I'm investing in their happiness.

How to Help a Depressed Child

Alexandra Massey | Posted 03.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Alexandra Massey

A new study has found that children in pre-school who are depressed are more than twice as likely to continue to experience depression all the way through childhood... the correct support for a depressed child can really make a difference. And it's possibly not what you think.

So, Is It Easier to Be at Work or at Home With the Kids?

Andrea Mara | Posted 24.08.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Andrea Mara

I remember a work colleague of mine from some years ago, who regularly told me that work was easier than looking after his kids. "The office is a break for me," he used to say, "I'm heading home now to the real job". I didn't have children at the time and I assumed he was exaggerating. In fact, as the work we were doing at the time was very challenging, I thought it was a form of self-praise - a humble-brag of sorts.

Child Neglect Can Be Stopped in Its Tracks: The Right Information Will Help Reach Children Early

Sir Tony Hawkhead | Posted 21.10.2014 | UK
Sir Tony Hawkhead

Children who may be suffering or who are at greater risk of neglect, but whose circumstances do not reach an authority's threshold to receive social care support, are less likely to get the help that they need. Instead, their situations can be allowed to deteriorate to become even more desperate or dangerous. It is a tragedy that due to a lack of gathering the right information, children whose lives could be improved are needlessly put at further risk. Child neglect can be stopped in its tracks.

Raising an Activist: A Letter to My Son

Natasha Batsford | Posted 06.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Natasha Batsford

There is a running joke in our house that my son is destined to be an accountant: Not because of his freakish ability to do mental arithmetic but because he rejects every attempt to fill his life with awesome in favour of being painfully sensible.

Why Deny Him Parental Responsibility?

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 28.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Having parental responsibility means that you both can make decisions with regards to the upbringing of the child, his/her education and general wellbeing but surely that is a good thing right? For the child I mean, not you.

How to Be a Green Parent (And Save a Heap of Money!)

Wendy Graham | Posted 27.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Wendy Graham

When I became pregnant a few years ago, as someone interested in green living I was determined to not fall into the trap of having to buy every single thing glossy parenting magazines told me I needed, and save money where possible.

Goodbye Life, Hello Child: Why It Took Me Time to Love My Son

Caroline Keetch | Posted 24.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Caroline Keetch

This loss of everything I took for granted in my adult life was much more overwhelming to me than the love I felt for my baby. I know, I said it, shoot me world - and what a world we live in when it comes to 'views' on mothers. How we should feel, how we should look, how we should react... the expectations are real and they are fired at a new mother like arrows from a bow.

Is Instagram the Modern Mother's Little Helper?

Natasha Batsford | Posted 13.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Natasha Batsford

When I was young, if we wanted to share the moment that our babies took their first faltering steps across the lounge floor, we had to stick our heads out of the front door and shout at Peggy across the road to stop hanging out her washing and come see.

Why I Don't Want Kids

Maria Senise | Posted 12.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Maria Senise

I have a nice hefty dose of Generalized Anxiety Disorder and OCD. I can not fathom the worry I would feel if I were fully responsible for another human being that I created. I'd most likely have a nervous breakdown. Also, I'm terrified I'd pass on my mood disorders to my poor kid. No way, Jose.

How to Be a Useful Woman

Adele Barlow | Posted 08.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Adele Barlow

If you're an entrepreneur, you're a hunter: you're looking to grow your resources to bring back to the cave and there's something fundamentally masculine about that. Meanwhile, females are socially conditioned to focus on nesting - on making the cave look pretty and taking care of the children.

Defending Kirstie Allsopp's Feminism

Tom Johnson | Posted 03.08.2014 | UK Universities & Education
Tom Johnson

Kirstie Allsopp is not telling every woman that she needs to have a baby, flat and nice boyfriend by 27. I'm sure that in the light her comments to the telegraph she will be railed against for these suggestions, made as they were to her theoretical daughter. She is however most certainly a feminist and I'd argue many of her other beliefs far more radical than the average.

Five Steps to Stop Worried Parent Syndrome

Malminder Gill | Posted 27.07.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Malminder Gill

Parenting and worry seem to go hand in hand. But what happens when your incessant worry results in arguments, discord and tension between you and your child? You obviously mean well, you care and love your child and want the best but your child does not see that, resulting in frustration, anger and guilt.

Three Simple Rules for Easy Parenting

Karen Pine | Posted 14.06.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Karen Pine

Research shows that adults who can delay gratification and regulate their behaviour are more likely to be high achievers. They're also the savers with long-term plans, quietly gloating over the live-it-up splurgers.

Make Her Day This Mother's Day

Kiran Chug | Posted 27.05.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Kiran Chug

Forget the flowers, forget the perfume. Forget the gifts she doesn't need, forget the chocolate she'd rather not eat. Instead, this Mother's Day, tell her she's a good mum.

Interview: Trista Hendren, Feminist Activist and Author, on Her New Book 'Mother Earth'

Ruth Jacobs | Posted 11.05.2014 | UK
Ruth Jacobs

Trista Hendren is a feminist activist who co-founded Rapebook, a Facebook page set up to campaign against rape humor and other abusive content on Facebook.

Try Screen Free Time This Half Term

Sigrid Daniel | Posted 19.04.2014 | UK Tech
Sigrid Daniel

From Spring-themed fun to indoors entertainment, here are six fun-packed ideas for everyone. None of them involve a screen -- so get yourselves and your children reconnected with the physical world this half term.

Work-life Balance - A Dad's Survival Guide

Malcolm Bell | Posted 07.03.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Malcolm Bell

This isn't a cry for help. But I can't help but notice, my wife is asked all the time about 'work-life' balance, but nobody ever asks me. The way you feel, act and certainly look (sleepness nights) is changed forever.

Missing Children, Missing Care and Missing Questions: Why Are Children in Care Being Failed?

Charlotte Proudman | Posted 01.03.2014 | UK
Charlotte Proudman

We need a debate about whether it is morally acceptable to profit from the social care of vulnerable children. About how palatable the commoditisation of care is. About how appropriate it is to have a 'market' in housing children with multiple needs...

Twerking at Work: Images of Women in Society

B.J. Epstein | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
B.J. Epstein

It's not just about the twerking. It's about working, and it's about living. In a strange way, many women have to metaphorically twerk at work and in their private lives, and it's time for this to stop.

Take a Chill Pill: Are Children's Games Creating A Nation Of Pill-Poppers?

Sandi Mann | Posted 28.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Sandi Mann

Children's games that encourage kids to use drugs for every minor or temporary complaint are not harmless fun. They are insidious in that their influence is creeping, hidden and wrapped in cute and cuddly packaging. They pave the way for a tacit acceptance of prescribed and even non-prescribed uppers, downers, relaxants and stimulants.

A Very Wild Network

David Bond | Posted 23.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
David Bond

A year ago today I stood up in front of a room full of conservationists and told them they had failed. They exist to get people outdoors and connected to nature. But, increasingly, people are not interested. They vote with their feet, and stay indoors. More worryingly, so do their children.

Be Afraid of Children

David Bond | Posted 20.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
David Bond

If we hammer home the stranger message to our children, we scare our children. We make them afraid of all adults and all places they might meet them. Frightened children will retreat more and more into their bedrooms.