By the end of the day, I could no longer pretend nothing had happened. Hazy memories had penetrated my armour of denial. He'd come into the room in the middle of the night. He'd pulled my clothes off. He'd pushed inside me. I'd tried to stop him but I was half asleep, confused, still under the effects of alcohol.
As unions and universities, we have the perfect opportunity to grab the attention of young people moving into their new home. We can show them that it's okay to speak about consent and it's okay to speak about rape. We can be the ones to help survivors report and ask for help. We can be the ones to help destroy the shame that so often nips at their heels.
Teaching consent at Universities is not a cure-all: it is a start. We must take young people and sexual assault seriously, and the NUS and Students' Unions are taking necessary steps to do so. For those berating the need for further action, those disputing whether this is enough: there is no better place to start fighting rape culture and concepts of patriarchal masculinity, than in a classroom.
I hope that none of you have known the pain, terror, shame and hatred that come with a sexual assault. However a sad statistic states that in 2014 20% of women and 9% of men between the ages of sixteen and fifty nine have. And those are the ones that have been brave enough to come forward and report it.
If you are a survivor of sexual abuse the chances are you will have felt and battled with self-blame, the same as Chrissie still is now - and so did I. This is very normal. The most common question in sexual assault is "Was it my fault?" There are no actions anyone can ever take that make sexual abuse permissible. The offender is always responsible for their actions. What we should be looking at, is why "was it my fault?" is the most common question and how we change this.