Life is not a beach, even when you spend all day on one, and travelling is not easy, even with a partner. Although I don't think there's much we could have done to prepare for the trials we have since faced, it might have been easier knowing we were going to face them at all.
As a grieving man I am no different to a storm chaser. Terrified but compelled to move in closer, to be intimately aligned with something I hope can heal me but that has the power to completely destroy me.
New statistics give the lie to the idea of husbands and wives remaining together "till death do us part". The Office for National Statistics has produced a bundle of data exploring the reasons behind the group known as 'silver splitters', those individuals who choose to divorce when aged 60 or over.
The term "Menopause" is frequently associated with thoughts of flushes, sweats and the dilemma of whether or not to take HRT. In addition, fluctuations in hormone levels during the peri-menopausal phase causes changes in messaging in the brain, which can lead to mood swings, irritability, loss of confidence and depression.
The first date went so well, I hadn't really felt like I was trying; now I'm flailing and babbling. And when I'm not firing off questions, there is silence. I watch him fidget like a constipated toddler on a tricycle trying to let out a fart. He fiddles with his laces, runs his hands through his hair...
It's traditional to wait for a guy to make the first move. Why is that, exactly? We are running corporations, being treated as equals, and taking the world by storm. Why does that have to be any different in the dating realm? Millennials and technology have reinvented the dating game, and the old traditions don't hold up like they used to.
It was a Friday night, and I was on my way to an Internet date in Brixton. I remember it as a desperate place, but it's fine now, even Foxtons thinks so. As I stood in the bus shelter with my Budgens All-Day Breakfast sandwich, I felt a melancholic twinge.
A friend of mine recently 'broke up' with one of her best friends of 17 years. Obviously in pain and desperate for closure, she didn't know how to deal with it and frankly neither did I. This incident forced me to look at the unchartered territory of girl friend break-ups.
This is a question that practically every male has asked himself at one point or another in his life. Unfortunately, there is rarely a hard and fast answer to the query. In reality, it's probably due to a number of physical and psychological factors that we could never measure. But that's boring.
It is perhaps no wonder that I often read comments from younger people vehemently arguing against getting older. They don't want to lose their money, independence, purpose or standard of living, nor do they want to need care or be the recipient of poor care. For all of us who possess youth rather than experience the time to change this culture is now.
It is time now to build a new life, shape a new career, make new friends, and even fall in love again. Don't worry if you fall along the way. Now, it's time to be fearless. Build courage one step at a time. Life is short.
These days, young, career women are prolific. Which is awesome. But also problematic. Because now there's a pressure to be just that; young and career-y. Suddenly, it feels old and boring to be in a long-term, serious relationship when others born in the same year are gallivanting around the world, playing out episodes of Girls (string vests, reckless sex, you get the gist).
I have to admit it - I was never really much of a feminist! If I'm being even more honest I spent most my twenties not really understanding the concept, nor even thinking about it for that matter. Like most flat chested high-pitched cocky young girls - I thought I had it ALL figured out, and when I needed advice I went to the people I could trust the most; my Mum and Grandma.
It's important to realize that in committed relationships, roughly two thirds of the problems are unresolvable. Two thirds! With the amount of issues in marriage that aren't resolvable, how do you create a lasting and passionate marriage?
The thing that makes me sad is the despair and fear I see in my own eyes and body language. Sometimes I think I look exactly like what I am: a 35 year old woman who did not survive an abusive relationship. The thought of being found sexually attractive fills me with horror and the sheer terror that I might be set up to be knocked down again.
Widow Debbie Dorling's husband was tragically killed by an HGV driver when both crossed red lights at an intersection. Instead of baying for justice when he walked free from court on Tuesday she wholeheartedly embraced the driver and forgave him.