Most of us probably think that just using the mirror or jumping on the scales every day to judge how we are shaping-up will inspire us to stick to an exercise plan, but the opposite is usually true - it can actually discourage and demotivate.
Only 3% of women in the UK are totally happy with their bodies...that is ABSOLUTELY CRAZY...even the slim people are bloody unhappy with their bodies...don't you get it? slimness shouldn't be the goal...happiness should be regardless of what size you are. I argue that being unhappy is THE most unhealthiest way to be.
You beat yourself up every time another diet fails or your pants don't fit anymore, and you think you just aren't good enough. Shame and guilt take over and you think, "screw it, I'm done! ".
If we're not happy with something about ourselves, that it needs to be for some other reason than because we don't have the legs of Gisele Bundchen or the skin of Naomi Campbell. It's buying into this archaic system of perfection and imperfection that has allowed Victoria Secrets to peddle such bullshit in the first place.
The latest in quick fix diets, this pill, once swallowed and inflated is the latest mini gastric balloon. It's being hailed as a miracle pill - but really isn't it just vanity gone mad? The pill is designed for people a stone overweight. You know, the kind of people who could tweak their diet a bit and maybe hit the gym for an extra day a week in order to lose 'that' stone.
But before you stop any good work and reach for the biscuits I'm not advocating sitting about and eating badly! Better to adopt a few healthy habits that you can bring about to nurture and restore yourself at this time of year, and save the more full-on cleansing till spring when you're more energetically able to cope with it.
Make your goals for change personal, unique and measurable. Without a time frame your goal remains a wish and will never be realised. Your change comes sooner when it's quantifiable where you can monitor and adjust it until you reach the mark. Put a number to it, add an action plan and work from the end backwards.
New Year, new resolutions? You don't need to feel punished to brighten your outlook and put spring in your step this January. Forget strict eating plans and complicated exercise regimens, at Vogue Paris we've been celebrating the New Year with a rejuvenating and thoroughly luxurious line-up of products and health tips.
'I will find inner peace this year', 'I will exercise this year',' 'I will spend more time with my friends this year'... and on the mantra mill goes on. This year I made a resolution to shun New Year's resolutions for the rest of my life. I don't want to be tied down to that level of commitment.
The secret, is to look East. Both Ayurveda and Traditional Chinese Medicine completely live in the NOW when it comes to the chilly months. Both believe that if you do winter right, you will bounce through the rest of the year.
If we can't accept what we look like then how do our children stand a chance in a society that constantly sends out messages about how they expect us to appear?
Ask 5 people to tell you the 10 things they think you're really great at. Paint it loud and proud and don't brush it off. In there lies to the clue to what you'd be good at, and again, you might not be doing it in your day job.
Here's a thought. Don't diet. Not now. January is dark. It's too cold to lug yourself round the park in your shorts and T-shirt. Only the blandest fruit and vegetables are in season and besides, you're scientifically hard-wired to fail.
I know what you're thinking; you don't want to read yet another list of resolutions from another Internet stranger on Huffington Post right? Well, to be honest, I didn't want to write one either. Instead, I feel much more inclined to tell you the things I'm resolved NOT to do when I travel, because apparently I'm contradictory.
So it's back to work and after a magical, if never-ending Christmas break, the world welcomes the return of routine and breathes a collective sigh of relief. Except mums. That is.
The first week of the new-year is traditionally a time when we all resolve to lose 10 pounds, go running every day and abstain from booze, fags and all other vices until daffodils appear. The second week of January is when we decide that we're all going to die anyway, so we might as well have some fun in the time we have left.