Your habits, whether negative or positive, determine your perception of reality. Your memories are not stored in isolation from everything else in your mind...they live alongside your feelings, your thoughts, andyour desires. As your feelings, habits, and goals in life change, your memories also change in accordance with them...
Now I don't knock Denise's weight loss. The fact that she is feeling better than she has in ages is great - but the truth is Lighter Life is possibly one of the most extreme diets out there. A meal replacement diet, that substitutes food for powdered potions at highly inflated prices is no sensible way to make lifestyle alterations.
From a confidence perspective, as a fellow ''curvy girl'', whenever I see a woman with, shall we say, a round bottom, who isn't afraid to show it off, I feel a rush of empowerment. I feel the need to raise my fist in sheer womanly power with a defiant grin upon my face whilst roaring ''go on yersel!'' However, these emotions are starting to deplete.
I hate talking about 'diets' I hate when the focus is on 'diet'- I really find these conversations pointless and almost on a level frustrating. You know when you tell yourself you can't have that, it's all you want. Psychologically I feel this is what restrictive diets do. You become obsessed with food, it is your only thought and it's draining.
What do you hear when you listen to ads telling you that you have "4 weeks to fit into your LBD", or to "tone your tum for Christmas", "drop a dress size before Christmas", or advising "how not to ruin your diet during Xmas". Me? I heard fear, failure, and the reinforced message that I could not be trusted around food.
As a professional coach you might be surprised to hear this but come January 1st I'll be boycotting New Year's resolutions for myself and my clients and that's because I know that making a real commitment to change requires determination and hard work.
Most of us probably think that just using the mirror or jumping on the scales every day to judge how we are shaping-up will inspire us to stick to an exercise plan, but the opposite is usually true - it can actually discourage and demotivate.
Only 3% of women in the UK are totally happy with their bodies...that is ABSOLUTELY CRAZY...even the slim people are bloody unhappy with their bodies...don't you get it? slimness shouldn't be the goal...happiness should be regardless of what size you are. I argue that being unhappy is THE most unhealthiest way to be.
You beat yourself up every time another diet fails or your pants don't fit anymore, and you think you just aren't good enough. Shame and guilt take over and you think, "screw it, I'm done! ".
If we're not happy with something about ourselves, that it needs to be for some other reason than because we don't have the legs of Gisele Bundchen or the skin of Naomi Campbell. It's buying into this archaic system of perfection and imperfection that has allowed Victoria Secrets to peddle such bullshit in the first place.
The latest in quick fix diets, this pill, once swallowed and inflated is the latest mini gastric balloon. It's being hailed as a miracle pill - but really isn't it just vanity gone mad? The pill is designed for people a stone overweight. You know, the kind of people who could tweak their diet a bit and maybe hit the gym for an extra day a week in order to lose 'that' stone.
But before you stop any good work and reach for the biscuits I'm not advocating sitting about and eating badly! Better to adopt a few healthy habits that you can bring about to nurture and restore yourself at this time of year, and save the more full-on cleansing till spring when you're more energetically able to cope with it.
Make your goals for change personal, unique and measurable. Without a time frame your goal remains a wish and will never be realised. Your change comes sooner when it's quantifiable where you can monitor and adjust it until you reach the mark. Put a number to it, add an action plan and work from the end backwards.
New Year, new resolutions? You don't need to feel punished to brighten your outlook and put spring in your step this January. Forget strict eating plans and complicated exercise regimens, at Vogue Paris we've been celebrating the New Year with a rejuvenating and thoroughly luxurious line-up of products and health tips.
'I will find inner peace this year', 'I will exercise this year',' 'I will spend more time with my friends this year'... and on the mantra mill goes on. This year I made a resolution to shun New Year's resolutions for the rest of my life. I don't want to be tied down to that level of commitment.
The secret, is to look East. Both Ayurveda and Traditional Chinese Medicine completely live in the NOW when it comes to the chilly months. Both believe that if you do winter right, you will bounce through the rest of the year.