As women we were raised and trained to be modest, no bragging, not to be conceited, maybe even not to stand out or rush to be first in line. So guess what, you are justifiably not comfortable blowing our own coronet! But it's time to change that, 'cause after all, where does it get you! Absolutely nowhere.
Fashion can play quite a complicated role in the lives of many women. It fills our media, acts as a social currency for chatting to our peers, and is a regular weekend pursuit for many yet how many of us are truly happy getting dressed? How many of us stand in front of a full wardrobe, feeling we have nothing to wear?
If your life goal is to make anyone proud (even sometimes including yourself, subject to the goals required to be achieved) you are doomed to fail. Not only do you sacrifice the hours you could spend enjoying your life, making yourself and those around you happy, you waste your life on someone who wasted their lives on themselves.
Wouldn't it be an incredible thing if businesswomen in cities everywhere saw how much good they could do their communities by creating programs like this? As women, we are generally nurturers. Shouldn't we be helping to empower other women contribute their gifts to society, whether in work or as volunteers?
I didn't just 'not love myself,' I didn't actually even like myself. I was angry at myself for so many different things in my past and it not only held me back in my own relationship with myself but got in the way of my relationships with those around me and made me less productive in my everyday life.
We women often fail to put boundaries in place to protect ourselves from stress, anxiety, overwork and other situations that drain the energy from us. Whether this be not saying no when deep down we know we should, or whether it be not setting personal boundaries around what we will and will not do for ourselves.
The media after her death in July 2011, focussed on her alcohol and drug abuse. But they didn't mention her bulimia, nor the depression she wrestled with since she was a teen. The new documentary film on her life directed by Asif Kapadia sets the record straight, telling the tale of a brilliant woman who was plagued with self-doubt and deficient in resilience.