Imagine you have been shortlisted for a job interview; it's the job you have set your heart on and one which potentially opens the door to your dream career. You have researched the company, re-read your CV, ironed your shirt and polished your shoes. Knowing that this could be a turning point, you would turn up for the interview, right?
So accustomed are we to talking about ourselves with a razor-sharp tongue that we forget to spare a kind word every now and again. When we speak negatively about ourselves we are only perpetuating an already toxic culture and advocating the negative sense of self that so many of us have come to learn.
How about we start to see arrogance as a strength? How about we flip arrogance on its head for a second - I think that arrogance is much like beauty: It's entirely in the eye of its beholder. I say this because I know for a fact that my own 35 year old arrogance (self assured confidence) is often taken in one of two ways ...
In our culture, there is a belief that when things are broken they become unloveable. Which of course means that we discard them. So we chuck out old toys, throw away chipped plates and ditch things that are no longer of value. We give up on broken people. And sometimes, like me at 18, we even try to give up on ourselves...
The Self-Esteem Team, the group I work with who go into schools teaching students on mental health, self-esteem and exam stress, are writing to David Cameron every single day for the next year in a bid to revolutionise the education system by including mental wellbeing on the curriculum. Until that date is in the diary though, here are seven ways to build resilience...
As women we were raised and trained to be modest, no bragging, not to be conceited, maybe even not to stand out or rush to be first in line. So guess what, you are justifiably not comfortable blowing our own coronet! But it's time to change that, 'cause after all, where does it get you! Absolutely nowhere.
Fashion can play quite a complicated role in the lives of many women. It fills our media, acts as a social currency for chatting to our peers, and is a regular weekend pursuit for many yet how many of us are truly happy getting dressed? How many of us stand in front of a full wardrobe, feeling we have nothing to wear?
If your life goal is to make anyone proud (even sometimes including yourself, subject to the goals required to be achieved) you are doomed to fail. Not only do you sacrifice the hours you could spend enjoying your life, making yourself and those around you happy, you waste your life on someone who wasted their lives on themselves.
Wouldn't it be an incredible thing if businesswomen in cities everywhere saw how much good they could do their communities by creating programs like this? As women, we are generally nurturers. Shouldn't we be helping to empower other women contribute their gifts to society, whether in work or as volunteers?
I didn't just 'not love myself,' I didn't actually even like myself. I was angry at myself for so many different things in my past and it not only held me back in my own relationship with myself but got in the way of my relationships with those around me and made me less productive in my everyday life.