Self Esteem

Can You Achieve Real Confidence?

Suzy Greaves | Posted 05.02.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Suzy Greaves

When I'm out and about meeting Psychologies readers at our events, we often talk about no-limits, 'magic wand' thinking. If you could wave a wand and change something about yourself - what would you change? 'Confidence' is the word I hear over and over again. If we could only be a little bit more confident and comfortable in our own skin, the world would be our oyster...

Self-Marriage and Self-Love

Grace Gelder | Posted 03.02.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Grace Gelder

I married myself in 2014 and after an article in the Guardian newspaper went viral six months later, the story about my decision was featured in press around the world. I've been interviewed about the topic time and time again, for radio, TV and print. It wasn't until a recent walk in an Austrian forest though, that I felt I had much to share on the topic of self-love.

Are the New Curvy, Tall and Petite Barbies Healthy Role Models or Just Another Kind of Stereotype?

BritChick Paris | Posted 01.02.2016 | UK Lifestyle
BritChick Paris

Having role models that bust these perceptions is a huge step forward, but it is equally important not to single them out for being different. It's as if to say, if you don't look like the super skinny version, then somehow you're not normal. Most kids want to feel normal so will they really ask for the 'curvy version?'. Will they want to be seen with it?

Child's Play: The Importance of Tackling Body Image Among Children and Teens

Liam Benjamin Preston | Posted 01.02.2016 | UK Parents
Liam Benjamin Preston

If you think your child may want to discuss their body confidence or if you want to have a greater understanding of how the words we use and choices we make influence young people's self-esteem, please check out Be Real's resources.

What Motherhood Has Taught Me About Failure

Aimee Foster | Posted 01.02.2016 | UK Parents
Aimee Foster

In motherhood, I fail often. Sometimes I shout more than I should, I may cry, burn dinner or not even find the time to cook a proper dinner at all. Some days I'm distracted, the laundry baskets are overflowing and at times the kids watch too much TV. Occasionally I just want to run and hide.

For 8+ Years I Crippled Myself With Anxiety Over Freckles

Cat Elliott | Posted 25.01.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Cat Elliott

Growing up people made fun of them. Which essentially shouldn't have mattered. However combining that with other image issues, depression and anxiety, it really did become an internal battle for me. I became so overly aware of them that I was never at ease.

When a Stranger Rejects You

Jean Smith | Posted 18.01.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Jean Smith

Why does rejection from a stranger hurt so much? Even the mere idea of a stranger's rejection is enough to put off the most brazen of us.

Do You Want to Be Someone, Going Somewhere or No One, Going Nowhere?

Kamontip Evans | Posted 18.01.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Kamontip Evans

It is your choice: to be someone, going somewhere - with all the fun, stress and strain that comes with your given name and acquired reputation; or being no one, going nowhere, not much fun but standing tall - at peace, with an understanding of where happiness truly lies.

Why Women's Magazines Need to Be Rewritten

Fran Hayden | Posted 07.01.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Fran Hayden

They need to realise that the messages that they present on the covers of their magazines are seen by everybody - young women do not walk around with blinkers on and there is no age limit to when someone starts feeling self-conscious about their body or when collapse of self-esteem is imminent.

Why the Start of a New Year Can be a Daunting Prospect for Many of Us

BritChick Paris | Posted 31.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
BritChick Paris

For at the end of the year there is a tendency for low self-esteemers like I used to be to look back with grey tinted glasses. 'I didn't go on that diet', 'I didn't get promoted', 'I didn't meet the one'. Social networks compound this by focussing on the glossy sides of life, making the gloomy crew feel even more useless, rubbish.

How to Build Someone Else Up, Without Tearing Yourself Down

Fran Hayden | Posted 23.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Fran Hayden

Society dictates that we shouldn't feel good about ourselves. We are told that we are too much or that we are not enough, we're too big or too small, too loud or too quiet - it is so rare that we are told to exist happily and proudly in our bodies exactly as they are.

All I Want for Christmas? To Feel God's Love!

Tony Lobl | Posted 21.12.2015 | UK
Tony Lobl

At the heart of Christmas is the Bethlehem babe, who later went on to preach that we are to love our neighbours as ourselves. Not instead of ourselves or despite ourselves but as ourselves. The all-inclusive love Jesus was teaching, therefore, includes the call to each of us to look after "number one", too.

Forgiving the Unforgivable - Could You Do the Same?

Tom Leavesley | Posted 14.12.2015 | UK
Tom Leavesley

Last week, you may have heard Laura Coel talk bravely about her experience of restorative justice and how she came face to face with the man who abuse...

All I Want for Christmas Is For You To Love The Skin You're In

Leyah Shanks | Posted 08.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Leyah Shanks

When you look deeper, right into the heart of the build up to Christmas, you begin to see cracks in its foundations. What on the surface appears to be a time of abundant merriment for all, is actually a vicious cycle that keeps us all manipulated like puppets.

What If? The Art of Believing in Yourself

Elizabeth Venzin | Posted 08.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Elizabeth Venzin

How different would our lives be if we believed in ourselves and embraced our unique and true self? What would you tell yourself if you had a positive sense of self-worth? Would you be in a different job? A different relationship? Or maybe just happy to be alone and free of obligation?

Be Grateful and Happiness Will Always Be Within Reach

Stefan Rollnick | Posted 03.12.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Stefan Rollnick

We can complain that our wifi isn't working, or we can sit down and just try to comprehend the fact that for most of the year we don't think twice when we send invisible messages, by tapping on a piece of glass, that can instantly travel across the globe.

A Call For Time Out On Photoshop

Fran Hayden | Posted 20.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Fran Hayden

Magazines use photoshop and alter images to maintain a quintessential goal for men and women to adhere to, but those who are represented in the media have a luxury that is out of reach to the rest of us.

'I'm Not Worth It' - Why Care Leavers Sabotage Opportunities

Gemma Pettman | Posted 20.11.2015 | UK
Gemma Pettman

Imagine you have been shortlisted for a job interview; it's the job you have set your heart on and one which potentially opens the door to your dream career. You have researched the company, re-read your CV, ironed your shirt and polished your shoes. Knowing that this could be a turning point, you would turn up for the interview, right?

Starting a Body Positive Conversation

Fran Hayden | Posted 13.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Fran Hayden

So accustomed are we to talking about ourselves with a razor-sharp tongue that we forget to spare a kind word every now and again. When we speak negatively about ourselves we are only perpetuating an already toxic culture and advocating the negative sense of self that so many of us have come to learn.

How Can You Help Someone With Low Self-Esteem?

Fran Hayden | Posted 06.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Fran Hayden

What can we do as individuals to help improve the self-esteem of those around us? If you see someone or know of someone who is suffering with low self-esteem, here are some things that you can do to help them realise their worth.

Let's Talk About Self-Esteem

Fran Hayden | Posted 30.10.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Fran Hayden

Someone that I grew up with recently unearthed a photo of me at 11 years old as she was packing to move, and when she shared it with me, my heart stopped. It stopped because I remembered. I remember how it felt to be the fat friend.

The Silent Disorder: PCOS

Holly Whiting | Posted 22.10.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Holly Whiting

Personally, I do not believe PCOS to be taken very seriously as a disorder and I feel this to be because, like mental health issues, often the symptoms go rather unnoticed and therefore people don't believe there is anything wrong with you.

Why I Enjoy Arrogance

Anna Fraser | Posted 22.10.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Anna Fraser

How about we start to see arrogance as a strength? How about we flip arrogance on its head for a second - I think that arrogance is much like beauty: It's entirely in the eye of its beholder. I say this because I know for a fact that my own 35 year old arrogance (self assured confidence) is often taken in one of two ways ...

Sometimes We Have to Break to Become Whole

Katie Portman | Posted 21.10.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Katie Portman

In our culture, there is a belief that when things are broken they become unloveable. Which of course means that we discard them. So we chuck out old toys, throw away chipped plates and ditch things that are no longer of value. We give up on broken people. And sometimes, like me at 18, we even try to give up on ourselves...

Is Fear of Failure Paralysing You?

Vicki Marinker | Posted 21.10.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Vicki Marinker

Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway was first published in 1987 and is now a bible for personal development. Susan Jeffers believes that fear comes from not feeling good enough about ourselves.