There are no short cuts to any place worth going. Making changes that are tangible come from yourself. Ask yourself this: 'Am I on the right route to get to where I want to be or am I aimlessly wandering around, stuck because it's safe and familiar?' Do you have a strategy for your life? Do you know the rules of the game and have a map, a plan and a timeline?
It's snowing. You wouldn't think there are lots of kinds of snow but there are. For example, there are the big fat fluffy flakes that drift and float, silently smiling as they gently cover the world in a soft sparkling blanket. They are friendly. Happy. Cheerful little kids seeking playmates. That kind of snow warms your heart and makes you want to daydream by a fire with a cup of cocoa.
It's true that sometimes friendships can be kind of lopsided. One friend might have an ongoing issue and needs some support for a while. Perhaps for a very long while. And you're doing all the giving and that friend is doing all the receiving. But then there are times it works the other way and you're on the receiving end for a while.
You call in sick with a moderate physical ailment, because it's easier to tell your boss you have a migraine/food poisoning/the flu than go into the intricacies of something you may not understand yourself. Have you ever been told to 'be strong' or 'get over it' by someone who just can't fathom the incorporeal nature of what's affecting your life?
I work with women across a variety of areas of their lives; losing weight, getting fit, finding purpose, becoming more assertive, breaking bad habits, motivation, energy, nutrition, their relationships etc etc. But what I've come to realise is that there is one common denominator underlying all these challenges and concerns.
Picking a therapist can seem like a daunting and time-consuming task. It's hard enough to get yourself to therapy when you need it (it's like going to the dentist for some people), but to 'shop around' for the right therapist can make many people quit, or settle for the first one they find, even if it's not the right fit.
Because stress is something that is highly personable and difficult to gauge, there are few clear and cut rules on what stress is and how it can be successfully diagnosed. This being said, there are some good guidelines that would indicate your current stress levels and if you need to bring them back into conscious balance.
Do you ever get lost in daydreams? Do you ever close your eyes and get so swept away by some delicious fantasy or other that it's as though you're really living it? Then something snaps you back to the here and now, and if you're a really good daydreamer, and you were very much 'gone', it's quite a shock to land back here in your present circumstances?