It is not the self-portrait that's the problem it's the intention behind it. When we are little we make funny faces in front of the camera and are uninhibited in every way. Hormones hit and we feel the crushing weight of spots, braces, bad hair and glasses, not to mention all the stuff that's going on inside. It is not surprising that they have to fake it to feel pretty enough.
The inclusion of the word 'selfie' in the English Dictionary marks more than just the arrival of a new word, it marks the dawning of an unfortunate new era in narcissism. Einstein famously said, "The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious." But he's a dead dude who didn't have an iPhone, let alone Snapchat.
Instead of screaming bloody murder at your screen, maybe you should feel sorry for the gloaters. While you bask under the florescent lighting of your office, dreaming of greener grass, your travelling online-associates are raining on their own parade. They are wasting their time in #paradise by making sure that you at home know all about it.