This sounds like a flippant statement but it's not meant to be. Leaving my job to go self employed, and leaving my husband to go it alone as a single parent, were both incredibly important and emotional times in my life. Times filled with fear, doubt, uncertainty, and plenty of tears. And on recent reflection I realised that I'd gone through many of the same thoughts and feelings during each of them.
There is now a Rich List of Women who have become enormously rich from their divorces from wealthy men. Do we feel envious of their wealth, or just disdainful because of the way they have accumulated it? The general feeling seems to be that they have done nothing to 'earn' it so why should they benefit. The cynic might say that the marriage was entered into with an eye on the main prize.
The cash-strapped Coalition announced on the 10th April they would be pumping £6.5million into projects aimed at helping separated parents "put their differences aside for the sake of their children". The announcement has put mediation in the spotlight as divorcees seek to minimise the impact of their split on their children.
As a family lawyer, I have advised many mothers and fathers, both separated and divorced, on shared parenting during the festive season. No one wants to be exchanging solicitors' letters the day before Christmas, so it's essential that you plan ahead and consider the practicalities, while keeping your children's best interests at heart.
The marriage campaigners have banged on for years about no fault divorces making it too easy to give up on marriage. They are still campaigning that for those unable to afford costly lawyers, a divorce obtained through the CO-OP will mean people will jump out of their marriages at the drop of a hat. I don't think so.