Separation

Top Tips for Surviving the Trauma of Divorce and Separation

Mary Banham-Hall | Posted 08.02.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Mary Banham-Hall

Try to understand what the other person is saying. Don't just think how to argue back. Unless there's serious abuse, try not to communicate through other people, especially people who think they're helping by taking sides.

Parenting After Separation - When Spending Time With Your Children Feels Like a 'Gift' Rather Than a 'Right'

Hannah Muress | Posted 28.01.2016 | UK Parents
Hannah Muress

When a relationship breaks down there is often a discussion about whether the children will live with one parent or the other. While we are in an age of 'shared parenting', the reality is that this does not normally mean that children live with each parent 50% of the time.

Don't Believe the Divorce Lawyers: January Is NOT All Doom and Gloom

Harry Benson | Posted 07.01.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Harry Benson

The first working day of January is even nicknamed D-Day: Divorce Day. The day when couples who fought over where to hang the holly jostle their way to the front of the solicitors queue. But is there any truth to this? Or is it merely the equivalent of the divorce lawyers January sales?

How to Let Go of Your Ex After a Break-Up

Sara Davison | Posted 07.01.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

She was completely overwhelmed with sadness and an acute sense of loss. She had a high flying career and was angry at herself for falling apart yet she had no control over the crying or the obsessing over what she might have done wrong.

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

Dr David Marjoribanks | Posted 24.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Dr David Marjoribanks

Most people who get married plan their wedding very carefully, plotting out every last detail from seating plans to thank you cards. Few of us plan for these relationships to end, yet sadly, 42% of marriages, and a significant proportion of cohabiting relationships, break down.

Why 'D-day' Doesn't Always Stand for 'Divorce'

Penny Mansfield | Posted 23.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Penny Mansfield

It's no surprise that many couples fall out during the festive season: the longed-for break from work can suddenly feel like being under house arrest, minor issues become magnified, too much booze leads to loosened tongues which can lead to rows...

Soul Groups and the Psychologist

Jacqueline Koay | Posted 22.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Jacqueline Koay

A soul group is simply a collection of people who gravitate and travel through life - or part of life - together. They could be from completely different histories, social backgrounds, age groups and interests, who happen to meet under the most extraordinary or the most nondescript circumstances.

Why You Might Not Get the Kitchen Sink in a Divorce

Philippa Cunniff | Posted 22.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Philippa Cunniff

Most people have seen the spectacular fall-out from divorce cases between one impossibly-wealthy person and another, normally with the upshot that one tries to wring as much out of the other as their lawyers can muster. All of which makes for great headlines, but it's not usually an accurate reflection of most divorce settlements.

Thinking About Divorce? Here's What You Need to Know Fiirst

Philippa Cunniff | Posted 11.12.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Philippa Cunniff

What is remarkable is the number of divorce cases which get started after Christmas - for whatever reason, early January is the time when lots of people decide to get started down the path they've probably been considering for a long time.

How to Handle the Split Loyalties With Friends When They Separate

Maggie Currie | Posted 14.09.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Maggie Currie

I think we have all had this dilemma. Who do we stay friends with after a couple divorces or separates? Hopefully you can stay friends with both parties, but that can be difficult as we are often dealing with human emotions and judgemental attitudes.

A Tale of Two Treehouses ~ Part Two Golden Oak Treehouse ~ Blackwood Forest, England

Harmeet Kaur Sidhu | Posted 28.08.2015 | UK Parents
Harmeet Kaur Sidhu

Family trees are also a great interest of mine. Unfortunately, my own family tree has had a bit of surgery. A few branches have been cut off and some of that wood has been used to fuel fire. However, recently, this tree of mine has seen some new growth. I'm pleased to feel strength in it again.

Divorce and Children: How to Approach the Childcare Arrangements

Hayley McCall | Posted 16.07.2015 | UK Parents
Hayley McCall

For many people, one of the hardest parts is knowing where to start when trying to sort out the childcare arrangements. Emotions are often running high, the legal process can be intimidating, and the practicalities can be overwhelming.

Speed Up Your Break-Up Recovery

Sara Davison | Posted 20.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Sara Davison

Have you ever noticed how good it feels to help someone? It's strange how helping others can give you a boost too. Even the little things you do can make a huge difference to their day but it can also have a positive impact on your day too...

Do You Need a Sabbatical From Your Relationship?

Susan Leigh | Posted 23.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Susan Leigh

The reasoning behind taking a sabbatical is that it provides a breathing space to reflect on your life, what your relationship means to you, ponder the good and the bad, really consider what it is you want. But are there other ways of reaching that same level of insight and awareness?

How to Overcome the Pain of Separation

Karen Ruimy | Posted 06.05.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Karen Ruimy

Sometimes I've experienced a lot of pain when somebody leaves my life, like a lover, a friend, a work partner or an employee - someone who is close to me in my life and then has to leave to go on another path. It takes a long time for me to soothe that pain.

Divorce and Kids: Eight Ways to Get Them Through

Karen Young | Posted 22.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Karen Young

Broken hearts don't mean a separation shouldn't happen. When a relationship has run its course it's likely the children will have felt the tension or the fading of one or both of you, and that's not good for anyone.

My First Date After the Big D

Ben Adams | Posted 15.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Ben Adams

If truth be told, it's about time I put myself back in the shop window for real now. No more excuses. No more "it's too soon", or "I've got to put the kids first", or even "I'll write a book about it instead of doing it for real".

Why So Many of Us Split Up in the New Year

Penny Mansfield | Posted 04.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Penny Mansfield

New research from the relationships charity that I work for OnePlusOne has found that a quarter of all parents who live with their partner and children have secretly considered separating or divorcing their partner.

Separating From Your Partner Keep Calm and Mediate Collaborate and Arbitrate

Margaret Kelly | Posted 26.01.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Margaret Kelly

Whichever process is chosen it is a requirement in financial matters for both parties to make a full and frank disclosure of their capital and income. If either party is concerned that this will obligation will not be met voluntary then a non-court based option is not suitable.

The Rules of Separation

Jeff Brazier | Posted 13.10.2014 | UK Entertainment
Jeff Brazier

Do we really put our children first? Separation for parents can be amongst the toughest experiences in life; the hurt, anger, pain and insecurity can be unbearable, and in those moments of feeling utter rejection you are meant to act responsibly on behalf of the children so that they are put first?

'Too Scared to Talk' - One in Four Children Feel Unable to Share Worries With Parents

Andy McCullough | Posted 26.08.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Andy McCullough

If you believe in the importance of open dialogue with your child and want to show your support for children who have no one to talk to then upload the most awkward conversation you've ever had with your child on the hub today or click on the share buttons on the Awkward Conversations hub to take part.

Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Have Kids When You Are Living Together

Suzi Godson | Posted 01.07.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Suzi Godson

Cohabiting couples split up much more frequently than married couples. After just five years, 49% of cohabiting couples have split, compared to 20% of married couples. After 10 years, 62% of cohabiting relationships are over...

Why Replacing Lawyers With Law Students Won't Solve the Family Court Crisis

Richard Adams | Posted 24.06.2014 | UK
Richard Adams

There are other steps that can be taken to reduce the burden on the court system and help reduce conflict between separating couples, not least by making the divorce process less complex or confrontational by introducing no-fault divorce or making pre-nuptial agreements binding. But removing access to legal advice and providing minimal support will help solve neither.

10 Things You Should Know About Emotional Affairs

Suzi Godson | Posted 22.06.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Suzi Godson

Emotional affairs do not necessarily include sex and can even occur over the Internet between two people who have never met face to face, but the effects can be just as devastating to relationships as sexual affairs- sometimes even more so.

Going Into Your Shell

Amy Anka | Posted 22.05.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Amy Anka

I have been venting my anger and sadness through the written word. I email my friend, and send her my unpublished articles. "No. You cannot publish that." She tells me. I become frustrated. "You are trapped in a loop." She goes on.