If you can't tell your manager or you're not sure you want to talk to your HR team just yet, talk to someone independent like the CAB or your union. I know this can be a tall order when you're not feeling brave, or you're afraid of repercussions. But we need to support each other to shout louder, to say no. Because if we don't tackle it, who will?
Our report, published with the Everyday Sexism Project, is one of the most extensive pieces of research on the issue in Europe. And for the first time in the UK, the study includes a large enough sample to be representative of experience of black, Asian and minority ethnic women - and rates of sexual harassment of BAME women were similarly high, with more than half (52%) being sexually harassed at work. We found that nearly one in three women have been subject to unwelcome jokes of a sexual nature and that more than one in four women have been on the receiving end of comments of a sexual nature about their body or clothes at work.
I feel the unsavoury topic of sexual assaults at festivals needs to be addressed. Talking about sexual assault brings the same challenges, of awareness and communication, both inside and outside the boundaries of a festival - it ranges anywhere from taboo (I can only imagine how many incidents go unreported) to sensationalist, scaremongering headlines. I'm conscious that by sticking my head above the parapet I risk offending - but in the spirit of The Secret Garden Party and what we hope it stands for, writing this is a risk worth taking.
I was obviously caught off guard and in shock, so my response was to give him a weirded out, unimpressed look, ignore it and carry on with my night. After a period of reflection, I won't lie I regretted not doing anything more and slightly felt like a hypocrite. Why didn't I pick up his drink and pour it over him? Why didn't I shout abuse at him how it's not okay to a misogynistic pig?
In an ideal world, stuff like this wouldn't be happening. I know that might be too much to ask, no one can control what people say. Just respect the staff of the places you visit. Stop harassing them if they are clearly not interested, and for the love of God leave the 16 year olds alone, making them uncomfortable is far from a joke. Respect the staff. That isn't too much to ask.
When I was 17 years old a man pulled over an articulated lorry on a busy road to hit on me. I can't be sure, but I think that's when a lifetime of being hit on constantly began. Now wait - before you think "ugh, what is this woman complaining about now?" I'm here to explain why women need to stop thinking other women are bragging when they tell these stories.