Is That Why They Call It Memory Lane?

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 20.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

Is that why they call it Memory Lane do you think? Because we make the past so narrow by filtering for it what suits us to remember? My drinking days were not all bad. Even in my worst of times. It's wrong of me to pretend otherwise.

What 100 Days of Sobriety Taught Me About Life

Kevin Widdop | Posted 27.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Kevin Widdop

Dry January was never really too daunting, given three-quarters of October, November and December all passed in a state of complete sobriety. My dirty little secret - drinking coca cola at parties and telling white lies by hinting I had already had enough that night - is well and truly and out. I'm as sober as a judge, people.

Six Surprising Side Effects of Sobriety

Rachel Black | Posted 12.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Rachel Black

You have a perpetual supply of wine to recycle as gifts. Yes, people still give me bottles of the stuff; they 'forget' that I 'don't really drink anymore' and still do not believe the 'No, not ever, not even one' part of the answer.

Why Sober Cheerleading Works (And Why I'm Gutted That it Does)

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 06.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

I make no secret of the fact that I don't like addiction counsellors. The methods they work from are totally outdated. They are obsessed with dragging up the past instead of focusing on the present... most of all I dislike them because an addiction counsellor is a role undertaken by people who leave Rehab and don't know what to do with their lives.

Stop Blaming Advertising for Your Alcohol Abuse

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 01.09.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

The biggest reason we have such a prolific alcohol abuse problem is because we refuse to take responsibility for our own actions. The reason that any attempts at sobriety are so protracted is that we are actively encouraged to lay the blame at everyone else's door but our own.

Should I Get Sober Online?

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 28.07.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

There is nothing scarier or more liberating than people typing out verbatim everything we have ever felt about our drinking. Even the stuff we won't say out loud. Especially the stuff we don't say out loud. Because if we didn't say it then how do they know?

Size Does Matter in Sobriety

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 04.05.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

Width in sobriety is new friends, fresh places, activities and perspectives. People who are very newly sober but have worked this out will not drink again. There a direct correlation between people who embrace a full sober life, (and this concept of width) and successful sobriety.

My Apologies to Those With Actual Diseases

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 04.04.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

Alcoholism is not something any of us would choose to deliberately, consciously pursue as a lifestyle. But whether we persuade ourselves into it, or are hooked from day one, the fact remains that it is still behaviour. Not affliction.

Are You Actually Drinking "at" Something Though?

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 15.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

One phrase that gets massively overused is "drinking at something". When life throws you a crap day or a bad situation and we use it as an excuse to drink. Drinking "at" that person, or scenario. Supposedly it's overcome by dealing with our feelings and reactions in a different way. Learning new coping skills.

Dry January

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 04.03.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

If you're going to walk around acting like a self-righteous pr*ck because you are doing it dry this January, people will hate you. Deservedly. Do dry January quietly and happily. Then you will still have friends in February. Always a bonus.

"I'm Appalled To Admit They Drink Less And Study More."

The Huffington Post UK | Emma Reidy | Posted 22.11.2013 | UK Universities & Education

An age of sobriety is developing amongst Britain's students as they struggle to cope with the steep rise in tuition fees and "simply cannot afford" to...

Why I Was Wrong and Full of Sh*t About Sobriety

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 14.10.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

This year I've been talking a lot about addiction. Why we are failing. What we are doing wrong. Why our failure rates are so bloody high. I shout a lot about mainstream recovery groups. How I believe they purport relapse and accept semi-permanent recovery as the norm. I was wrong.

Drinking: A Mash-Up Story

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 23.09.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

I don't believe in protecting people from the opinions of others. In fact I find it faintly ridiculous that people devote so much time to worrying on the behalf of other people. Acting like addicts are a bunch of unruly 5 years olds, likely to go off on the tear after reading a well-versed piece of prose on drinking. It's not dangerous to display these views. It's eye-opening.

Wedding Season - A Sober Affair?

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 04.09.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

A wedding can be many things depending on whereabouts you are on the sliding scale of alcohol abuse-to-alcoholism. If you're abusing it to the point people haven't really picked up on yet, then it's a great excuse to drink in a dysfunctional way with people who don't have alcohol problems... If you're at the stage where you suspect you have a problem and everyone around you shares that suspicion, then its stressful.

Why RiRi Is Right and Liz Jones Is Wrong

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 26.08.2013 | UK Entertainment
Carrie Armstrong

It's not Rihanna's job to live up to our ideal of the perfect role model for young women. She expresses herself for a living. She's very good at it. Right now she's young and spends a lot of time going out. She's really no different from other girls her age in that respect. She just does it on a bigger scale - and we all get to come along for the ride.

The Mythical 'Rock Bottom' of Alcoholism

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 12.08.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

When did you hit "rock bottom"? Tell me your "rock bottom" story. There is not a chance you've made it through even the first tentative steps of recovery from alcoholism without hearing both of these sentences. Which is a real shame given what a pile of sh*t they both are.

How to Have a Sober Summer

Beth Burgess | Posted 06.08.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Beth Burgess

Whether for health reasons, because you have a problem with alcohol, because you don't want the excess calories on your bikini body, or because you just don't like being drunk, an alcohol-free life is a commitment and a lifestyle for some of us. But the summer can be a difficult time for teetotallers.

Make Sobriety Your B*tch

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 24.06.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

Making sobriety your b*tch means you get to be in charge. No, you do not drink. No, you do not think about it. Do not entertain it as option. Your body is not going to go renegade and pour itself a drink. Become obsessed with sobriety. Why is it such a strange suggestion?

Don't Admit You Have a Drinking Problem

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 12.06.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

We've got it all backwards. Horribly backwards. And its killing us. This awful catch 22 situation. If we wait to admit and accept we have a drinking problem in our society? We are waiting for end-stage alcoholism. Or alcoholic Alzheimer's. Or being arrested. Or being injured horribly.

Please Don't Give Up Drinking

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 28.04.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

I don't like it when I hear people talking about "giving up" drinking. I don't like it because it doesn't really work. It's not about sacrifice. The very term "giving up" alcohol I take issue with. Nobody "gives up" drinking, the same way nobody gives up at a traffic light when it turns red. You just stop.

Alcoholism Is Not a P*ssing Contest

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 21.04.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

I don't frighten easily. I lived in a constant state of fear for so many years that it takes a lot to reignite it and take me to that dark place now. But when I see people using end-stage alcoholics to measure their own drinking against? It frightens me. When I see the media latch onto one person, the exception to the rule that has been able to subject their body to horrendous amounts of alcohol abuse and still just about function? It frightens me. Alcoholism is not a p*ssing contest. There is no glory to be had in being further up the sliding scale than these individuals.

But Why Do You Drink?

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 07.04.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

Three letters. Tiny word. Massive question. Why would you choose to drink when you know you can't stop? When it is frightening and it hurts you and everyone around you? Why do something you know is ruining your life? How can anything feel like it's worth this much? This is my why...

Why I Regret Giving Up Drinking for January

Harry Cockburn | Posted 30.03.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Harry Cockburn

However, London is a place where drinking is deeply necessary. Business in the fermented streets of the city is conducted through a thin veil of functional alcoholism, and for many, a drink is as valuable as a promise.

Alcoholism Is Ugly

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 30.03.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

Alcoholism is ugly. And though only the drinker feels the physical impact of the drinking - the pain of the self-inflicted injuries - the toxicity of our lifestyle tarnishes every single person we come into contact with.

New Year No. 7

Carrie Armstrong | Posted 03.03.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Armstrong

Last night was my seventh New Year's Eve. The seventh I woke up recalling what I did the night before, and the day before that and yes even the weeks leading up to it. The seventh New Year's Day I woke up not wanting to die, just so that it would finally be over. The seventh New Years Day I felt safe and reassured in the knowledge that I won't be back in a bar again in a few hours time. The shaking under control. The panic numbed and medicated into submission by the glass in front of me, and the one after that. And the one after that.