The dumping was done - obvs - by WhatsApp and included the line: "You are lovely, funny, smart and attractive, but not here." Attractive? I want to ask if he means incredibly beautiful but the dumping doesn't invite debate. It concludes: "I will of course respectfully delete all the fun on my phone and ask you do the same. Sorry."
The current residents need to like you. They need to meet you, laugh at your jokes, and envisage a future of movie nights and sharing chores and decide whether they're ready to bring you into their life. Beyond meeting for a first date, this sh** is serious. Imagine meeting someone for the first time and having to decide there on the spot if you want to live with them. Weird, right?