I thought, "I'm shit scared of this happening to me. But those people must have had the same fear". So I thought: what if I started thinking the same way? Saying "yes" to that little child inside me that wanted to dream big, whilst also not falling down a manhole that some busy worker has left uncovered.
Endometriosis has been at my side for 20 years, chronic fatigue for a decade, and fibromyalgia has joined the party more recently. Rather than be held hostage by symptoms which can sometimes be crippling, I am aware that my business successes have my circumstances to thank, in part, for my ability to succeed.
It's that time of year again, when everyone seems to be shrilly offering advice - how to be more successful, make a fortune, find the perfect job. The really annoying ones tell you how you can have them all at once - plus how to meditate, write a best selling novel, and solve world hunger at the same time.
There are no short cuts to any place worth going. Making changes that are tangible come from yourself. Ask yourself this: 'Am I on the right route to get to where I want to be or am I aimlessly wandering around, stuck because it's safe and familiar?' Do you have a strategy for your life? Do you know the rules of the game and have a map, a plan and a timeline?
Sometimes it feels too big, maybe overwhelming. But it doesn't have to be like that. I will share what I've learnt along my way. When year after year I was coming up with ideas and I saw the vision of where I wanted to be but something was still preventing me from stepping up to the field when game was actually happening. Things changed with time and this is what I've learnt.
It is also good to talk to your family and friends who will, I hope, give you an honest assessment of you as you are today. This is not always easy, but at the same time will show courage, humility and integrity. This may, in turn, be guided by what you have achieved in your schooling and early life.
The reality is that repeatedly setting a goal and not achieving it isn't a good thing. It holds us back and makes us doubt ourselves. It's confusing too - because for some reason, it is hard to act consistently in our own best interests, to better ourselves and commit to things that will serve to improve our life experience.