It is also good to talk to your family and friends who will, I hope, give you an honest assessment of you as you are today. This is not always easy, but at the same time will show courage, humility and integrity. This may, in turn, be guided by what you have achieved in your schooling and early life.
The reality is that repeatedly setting a goal and not achieving it isn't a good thing. It holds us back and makes us doubt ourselves. It's confusing too - because for some reason, it is hard to act consistently in our own best interests, to better ourselves and commit to things that will serve to improve our life experience.
Forced-ranking of employees means that all the employees within an organisation are compared or ranked against one another in order of performance. Then, using the statistical bell-curve specific numbers of employees are placed in categories ranging from: exceeds all expectations; exceeds expectations; meets expectations; partly meets expectations; fails to meet expectations.
Do you need a miracle? Have you been waiting for that golden opportunity, that one big break that would finally change your life? Do you have an image in your head about how it will look, the route it will take, and what it will mean for your life when finally, it lands on your doorstep? By no means have I learned all there is to know. On the contrary, the more I learn, the less I know.
Maybe it is narcissistic to expect spiritual fulfilment from our jobs. Maybe any quarter-life 'crisis' is only ever a result of adolescent navel-gazing. Maybe we should all just shut up, get on with the task at hand, and learn to distinguish reality from impractical expectations. Or maybe we should question the cultural definition of success.