It was a night I'll remember. I liked Tuhin and their brother-in-law, and my last visit reassured me why I chose to maintain a relationship with the Jamans despite the community's negativity towards them. I had developed a brotherly relationship with the boys, I saw their mother as my own mother, and after my in-laws' house, the Jamans' was where I felt most at home when I visited Portsmouth.
MPs, many of whom once struggled to place Kurdistan on a map, are better informed and understand that Kurds are efficient allies in the common fight against Daish. This is eroding the deep resistance to involvement in Iraq, which came to be defined as a disaster of the first magnitude, and maybe Syria.
Half the foreign jihadists in Syria and Iraq come from Islamic cultures: Tunisia, Turkey, Jordan, Saudi Arabia and Morocco. The governments that they reject face a big problem. But the lure of the so-called Caliphate in Syria and Iraq for some young people in Europe is rightly considered a security problem for us...
Depression is known to cause a pessimistic outlook, an inflexible view of the world, and even suicide. Our research into the root causes of radicalisation - perhaps not surprisingly - found a link between depressive symptoms and sympathies towards terrorist acts. These sympathies being an early marker for risk of radicalisation.
"What is wrong with just praying, fasting, reading Quran, doing a bit of charity and being a good person?" said a member from Portsmouth's Bengali community when news of Mehdi Hassan's demise became known. Clearly for Mehdi Hassan and the others who left for Syria in October 2013, it was not enough.
Contrary to the desires and interests of regional governments, arming and helping the Kurds to fight ISIL (Islamic State of Iraq and Levant) in Kobane may be the trigger for the birth of a new nation - Kurdistan. No country in the region wants that but this will be one of the unintended consequences of the break up of Syria and the emergence of ISIL.
With the Middle East at yet another critical juncture and with a sense of common purpose emanating from the region, this is neither the time for straw man moralising or finger pointing. The West should don its realpolitik glasses and use Qatar's status in the area to give a nudge to the consolidation process currently taking place in the Islamic world.