Terminal Cancer

Dear Mum, It's Been A Year Since You Died

Naomi Barrow | Posted 23.10.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

The world is a little darker without you in it. A little duller. Your laugh no longer bounces off the walls of the house. Your arms no longer gather me into a hug when I walk through the door. Your smile doesn't greet me as I come up the drive.

Dear Friend Whose Mum Is Terminally Ill

Naomi Barrow | Posted 10.10.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Your faith will be shaken. Whether it is faith in a higher power, in nature, in science, in people, or simply in good, it will be shaken because there is no rhyme or reason as to why this is happening. Eventually you will find faith in the little things again.

How Do You Celebrate A Dead Person's Birthday?

Naomi Barrow | Posted 27.09.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

24th September, Mum's 54th birthday (or do you stop counting when someone dies?) passed, just as every other day has. People often say that they hope their loved ones are celebrating wherever they are but I'm not sure I believe in heaven, or an afterlife. I'm not sure I believe that Mum is alive in another world, space or time. I think she's probably just dead. But her spirit and everything she's taught us will live on in us.

Heartbreak As Blogger With Terminal Cancer Dies Day Before Wedding

The Huffington Post | Natasha Hinde | Posted 16.09.2016 | UK Lifestyle

A blogger with terminal cancer has died the day before she was due to get married, after her health deteriorated rapidly in a matter of weeks. Anna Sw...

Dad: Picking Up Where We Left Off?

Naomi Barrow | Posted 20.06.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Working out how we all relate to each other as a family is just one more difficulty in the mountain of change that occurs when someone dies. I know that we will get there and I'm really glad we're close enough to work through these things together.

Cancer Surviour Guilt? How to Stop it Now

Karin Sieger | Posted 03.06.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Karin Sieger

Having a social, cultural and religious heritage that is well saturated with guilt (at least when I grew up), shame and guilt would be a constant companion and shadow that would weigh heavily on me. The essence of the intuitive and conscious belief was that 'I am bad'.

Some of My Past Died With Mum

Naomi Barrow | Posted 21.03.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

It is really weird knowing that if I lose a memory, and only Mum would have remembered it, it is now a nothing. It's a gap. I don't know where it went or what it turned into but it's not there anymore. It's been replaced by space and silence. For the rest of my life, that gap will always be a gap; there will never again be a piece of memory that perfectly fits.

Brave Woman's Emotional Letter To Terminal Cancer

The Huffington Post UK | Natasha Hinde | Posted 16.02.2016 | UK Lifestyle

A woman with terminal cancer has written a powerful open letter to the disease which is spreading through her body. Rowena Kincaid, 40, was first d...

Check Your Lumps and Bumps!

Naomi Barrow | Posted 03.02.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

This World Cancer Day, if you do nothing else, please just check yourself for any suspicious lumps or bumps... Catching cancer early can increase your chances of recovery. Life gets busy and it's so easy to procrastinate these not-so-fun tasks, but please take it from me: it's important.

Two Very Different Moves

Naomi Barrow | Posted 27.01.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

When I ordered new bedding (my new place has a bigger bed), it reminded me of that day I spent with Mum in York. A happy memory, but a memory nonetheless, one that can never be repeated. Packing up my things, I relived moments that have happened in that room. It was my home, my safe place, throughout Mum's illness.

One Month Without Mum

Naomi Barrow | Posted 23.11.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Some days are okay; I can smile, laugh, work, see people and generally live life. Other days are hard and I have to just be patient with myself. I miss her. I miss her so much. But I can live my life alongside missing her. Most importantly, despite missing her, I can still be kind to myself.

Star Wars Fan With Cancer Dies After Seeing 'The Force Awakens' Before Release Date

The Huffington Post UK | Brogan Driscoll | Posted 10.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle

Daniel Fleetwood, the man with terminal cancer, made headlines when he was granted his dying wish to watch 'Star Wars: The Force Awakens' before its r...

Slow Down, Your Mum Died Last Week

Naomi Barrow | Posted 05.11.2015 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Last week, I sat down with someone and was airing some of my frustrations, they looked at me and basically said "Naomi, your Mum died last week". Mum died and my body is grieving. It's why some days feel like sludge. It's why I'm so tired all the time no matter how much I sleep. It's frustrating and annoying but it's how my life is.

Star Wars Fan With Terminal Cancer Pleads To See 'The Force Awakens' Before Release Date

The Huffington Post UK | Natasha Hinde | Posted 03.11.2015 | UK Lifestyle

A Star Wars fan who was given two months to live back in July says he is "holding on" to see 'The Force Awakens'. Daniel Fleetwood, who has termina...

The Last Days of Life

Naomi Barrow | Posted 20.10.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

I can't imagine how it must feel to wonder which part of your body might fail on you next, to know that you might not live to the weekend and will never feel the sun on your skin again. Yet, she faces it with a dignity and grace that most of us can't muster when faced with the prospect of a half-hour trip on a weird smelling bus, never mind much else.

Mum Is Dying

Naomi Barrow | Posted 13.10.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

I don't know how long Mum has left. I know that she's tired, that she's been battling this illness for a long time and it's not a nice position to be in. We're lucky because we have an amazing network of friends around us who constantly offer lifts, food, hugs, and an ear.

Thinking Out Loud

Naomi Barrow | Posted 18.09.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Somebody asked me last week if each time I said goodbye to my Mum I thought about whether or not it would be our last. The very quick answer to that question would be 'no'. When Mum was first diagnosed, I did for a while, but not anymore.

Dear Friend, My Mum Has Terminal Cancer

Naomi Barrow | Posted 02.09.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Dear Friend, I'm sorry to have to tell you this but mum has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. I'm sorry to tell you in such a blunt way, but there really is no other way to say it, and as I've had to tell so many people, I've got used to just saying it, now.

I Miss Our House Being Noisy

Naomi Barrow | Posted 05.08.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

When I get up on a morning now, everyone is still asleep. I get up in silence, creep around the house getting ready for my run before returning, showering, and getting ready for work as quietly as possible. I walk through the door on an evening now and I see and hear nobody. It's silent.

Terminal Cancer Might Be Taking My Mum's Body, But It Will Never Take My Mum

Naomi Barrow | Posted 29.07.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Cancer will never take all the things she taught me (not to mention other people), the impact she's leaving in the medical world, or the impression she's made on everyone she's ever met. Cancer can't take her love for me and my brothers, her pride in what we achieve, or her hopes and dreams for our futures.

Hope Is a Special but Fragile Thing

Naomi Barrow | Posted 07.07.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Though it may be a life without my Mum, there is a life waiting for me. Whatever happens outside of me, I am still me and I can still achieve amazing things. Hope and gratitude are so fragile, but so important. I am grateful for the brilliant people around me who lift me up, inspire me to hope for the future, and be the best version of myself that I can be.

Cancer: An Organised Person's Worst Nightmare

Naomi Barrow | Posted 01.07.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Ever since Mum's diagnosis, we have tried to keep life as normal as possible and on the whole, I think we're doing a pretty good job. One thing that we constantly struggle with though, is planning. Despite what books and movies say, cancer is not linear or predictable, and Mum's has often proven even less predictable than most.

Carers Are Hidden Heroes

Naomi Barrow | Posted 08.06.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

My Dad is a carer - he cares for Mum. We're lucky in that Mum is relatively independent at the moment, she can do most things herself... Carers are incredible, they really are. They are hidden, hardworking and humble. Please try and notice them this week. Please reach out to them. If anyone deserves an hour of your time, it's them.

Making Difficult Decisions

Naomi Barrow | Posted 03.06.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

Mum probably won't still be here when I graduate. She will probably die whilst I'm still at uni. I have to cram twenty or thirty years of visits into twenty or thirty days/weeks/months. I have to ask all my questions now; predict what I might want to know in years to come. Each birthday might be Mum's last, so rather than forget it I want to make it special.

Why Am I Blogging About Terminal Cancer?

Naomi Barrow | Posted 24.05.2016 | UK Universities & Education
Naomi Barrow

As a young person living with a parent who has a terminal diagnosis, I've discovered a fairly considerable hole in the people-dying-support-system stuff. There is a lot of support out there for children with a close family member who is dying; there is a fair amount of support for spouses and for parents of people who are dying.