It's bedtime Sophie. You have to learn to self settle, otherwise you will be too dependant on him and that's not acceptable. You will never learn to be a cold and detached adult if he gives in and cuddles you. Sorry but its best for everyone.
I now get to become that person who, having managed to navigate nine months of pregnancy and eight months of parenthood, now feels entitled to share helpful [patronising] advice [guesswork] to anyone who'll pretend to listen.
Since 1732, when Benjamin Franklin first published Poor Richard's Almanac, America has gradually become obsessed with self-help literature as a way to find the next quick fix to achieving that elusive "American dream".