The question is littered with assumptions; one of them being that in order to have a thriving career, your personal life with particular focus on children, will inevitably suffer. However, this predicament, or "either-or" approach is not presented to men. It is naturally assumed that men can have it all, because they do not have biological clock...
If you are lucky you will get plenty of advice as you forge ahead with your career...and of course there is always the internet to turn to now for comment and thought. But as I think about some of the things people have taught me over the years I often wish that I had learned them earlier - I wish someone had sat me down and just shared a few key pointers right at the beginning.
I have carried our the same research with over 1200 participants and the answer is clear! reveals that success for women definitely includes the Third Matrix as much as career and financial success. Here's a few examples:
Super productive people do not confuse busyness with productivity, in fact they are often less busy than those who are overworked and overwhelmed. One thing these super productive people all have in common is that they are all extremely passionate for what they are doing...
They don't blatantly say women should stay at home. Well they do, or to be precise they did, but since it was all too obvious, the public reaction forced them to become craftier at their messages. And, rather scientifically, as in whaling, the politicians turned toward actions and away from words.
It is baffling, upsetting and ire-inducing that in 2014 this is still the case, when we don't tolerate discrimination in the workplace against a person's racial or religious background and sexual orientation. If Nadella's 'system' works so fantastically, then surely all female employees should be paid the same as men?
Falling back on my journalistic training, a surprisingly successful 25 career as a public relations consultant followed, during which I developed the courage and confidence to promote my own business as well as those of my clients. By the time I accidentally became a 'comedy producer', I had accumulated a wealth of experience and a collection of useful skills to grow my own brand.
The bottom line is that you've got to be tough if you're leading a company -people's livelihoods and careers depend on you making cool, calm decisions. Christine and Annie are both very calm under pressure. Come to think of it I've met way more panicky blokes at the top than panicky women.
Last year, we conducted some research into FTSE 100 and 250 CEOs and found that despite the world of business being in a state of constant flux, the world of FTSE CEOs has remained static.
When a woman joins a business, whether that is a corporate business or a small company, she has a choice to adapt and conform to the majority of people there (read men) or to stay herself and bring her gifts while remaining in tune with who she is...
There is something to be said for the fact that women to date have had an even greater challenge than men to get their views heard and noticed, despite women's supposed excellent communication skills; So the race is now on as women take up the challenge, and men may have to fight harder to keep their positions.
Wonderwoman, Princess Diana, Madonna. They provided inspiration, ideas, visions from which to pluck, mould and reshape, to create my own look, my own aura, my own presentation of myself to the world.
I had the absolute pleasure to spend the afternoon recently with The Prince's Trust and HRH The Prince of Wales visiting some amazing young designers being supported by The Prince's Trust. It never ceases to amaze me how much passion and drive these young entrepreneurs have in relation to their business and they are so incredibly talented.
These women may run major companies, but their bodies don't know that. In fact, none of ours do. It is a machine that works in the same way that every other human's does, give or take a few things. Subject them to lack of sleep, too much stress and they will respond in exactly the same way: breakdown.
How do you explain when others are able to achieve great things that seem to defy all the assumptions? Some people are better placed, much smarter, more academic, wittier, more connected, yet don't succeed...
While this could simply reflect the fact that women may be more open to discussing their emotions, the charity has a different - and more worrying - view, that women are unhappy at work because of self-imposed pressure.