Successful change requires trust. If you can prove to your boss that flexi-working will enable you to be equally, if not more productive, then not only is it possible to have her support you in a new way of working, but you can also inspire others to follow your lead and become a catalyst for much-needed corporate change.
At present, state education does not match up to private schools in terms of academic provision. Until they do, parents who are lucky enough to be able to make the choice must make a value judgment. However, once you've made your choice, don't let your decision distort your take on reality à la Murray and O'Farrell.