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Has Feminism Gone Too Far? Or Will We No Longer Have a Place For Mothers in Society?

27/10/2014 13:28 GMT | Updated 23/12/2014 10:59 GMT

Feminism and the fight for women's equality rights has never backfired as much as during the last decade. Where men demand from women to be what they want, i.e. equal. And rightly so.

The dilemma is women are still the only ones who can give birth and the fact that equal rights somewhat stop right there. What happens here to the men who appear to be in favour of equality? Especially that men are the ones who are given equal rights in looking after the children. Paternity leave is one example of such an interesting move.

Still, given less men are happy to face the responsibility of being a father, and more women are single and desperate to find a man to settle down with, with wedding bells and kids included in the whole package. The question is - what do we do with mothers? For example if a woman decides to join the army of single and bitter mums? Who is going to be responsible for the kids? And who is there to patch-up the inequality difference with men? Do we increase mothers' salaries? Do we start taxing single men? Perhaps even single women who choose not to have any children? Where is the solution?

The mothers on benefits are not the women of the topic here. Everyone knows the general opinion on such women. Let's just say, working women always hope to never end up like them. The stigma is there and will stay unchallenged: If a mother is on benefits with more than one child, she is breeding the kids to keep the benefits coming. Sadly, and to the enhancement of the fact, often such women end up with males leeching onto them and their benefits. That's not only anti-feministic, that's anti-many-other-things.

The women in question are those who want to work, and don't mind to be equal... but once they decide to have the children, they just want to be stay at home mums. Not the most respected task among the career minded professionals, would you agree? Or amidst the men who are tired of being the workhorse for the preservation of their offspring and expectations of their not so distant future, where the kids fly the nest and they are left with neurotic, controlling women who have lost their positions of strength with the children gone. Often, what used to be considered caring rather than controlling is now directed at their husbands. Men, given that they have finances coming in, are still in control, often feel free and do divorce the women who fail to become anything else but mothers. Alas, their maternal services not only are no longer required, they are also suffocating to the male who wants to feel manly and respected. Instead, their balls are constantly grinded and are blamed for related and unrelated misfortunes to the mother in question.

As a result, many men or sons of such men, stay further and further away from the desire to marry. Women? Women, stay further and further away from the prospective of being married and with children.

Is there something, perhaps, the feminists or people fighting for women's equal rights neglected? Perhaps the right to be a mother? Or is the situation worse for the women who want to be equal and have kids? In a sense that men no longer treat them with a required gentleness and only see them as a restricting harness for their future life?

It is no longer a secret that the UK's demographic would be in shatters just as such of Japan, Italy and other countries, if not for the high birth rate among the immigrant community. Majority of which are either on benefits or... their women do not have as many rights? Or perhaps they are not even interested in equal rights, given they do just want to be stay at home mums and they expect, yes expect, for men to be a provider. Always.

Meanwhile more and more men use the excuse of feeling the pressure that she just wants marriage and children, should they have a desire to break up. And more women are scared to be genuine about their motives in the relationship. It's not they just need a male for love and a relationship. Biologically women are programed to give birth. Though lately, it seemed to be a punishable desire.

While on one side, the campaigns for women's rights are flourishing, women, on the other side, are drowning in confidence issues. Because, if they don't get married and with children by 38, yes the age of desperation has been pushed so much further, then there must be something wrong with them. And the answer is: nothing is wrong with them. Just while the feminists were fighting for the equal rights for women, men found an opportunity to fight for their freedom. Why commit, when you can have and eat your cake, pretty much any time...