I am a human being with breasts I also have other womanly parts but am I your sister?
I'm all for the saying girls together are strong, in fact I live my life by it, we are strong together, not just girls, but people, unity and togetherness is a wonderful thing, having shared ideologies, dreams, passions and behaviors, but recently it's had me thinking.
Are women bonded over the simple fact we share body parts, and do we have to proclaim love and unity with other women because we all have boobs? Surely this isn't feminism?
Does this mean because I am a woman I must stand in solidarity with that witch of a woman who stole my milk in 1995 (still quite haven't got over the effect Margret Thatcher's reign had on my childhood). Must I stick up for every booty shaking, bits flashing, video diva (god I hate them) using her bum and not her brain even though she has one, just because I am a girl? What about when I want to call my best 'sister' and shout and scream from the top of my voice about the sister who's not a sister at all, in my venting and casual therapy am I ruining the sisterhood?
I have one real (biological) sister and we fight like cat and dog... I'm not sure I want a brood of 'sisters'. They take your clothes; don't talk to you for weeks when you fall out, call you names, but in truth are the ones you rely on when shit hits the fan? I love this Sister, but she's all the sister I need.
I'm a 20something 'sister' and the sisterhood has me well and truly confused, who are my sisters and how does this work? As a post feminist female trying my best to keep the sisterhood alive, ( *voms* ) like many 20something sisters my sisters I had at 15 are not my sisters now. What about the sisters that you thought were your sisters, but weren't? Have I messed up the sisterhood? Have I got it all wrong? The Spice Girls split up, Destiny's child became DC3, Cheryl hates Nadine and I am well and truly confused.
Even more difficult to understand we watch people in general not being very sisterly. In truth people often suck. So you can see how this term has me confused. What about the sucky people? Are they part of the Sisterhood?
Step one: To clear up this mess I propose, a 'personhood' where people are nice to each other, & we support nice people with equal measure man, woman, girlband etc.
Step two: Its ok if you don't like me, man or woman its ok really, and if I don't like you that's ok too. I don't think the world will end. There are lots of people in it and we can't possibly like everyone.
Step three: (Very important) if you are sucky to me, I don't have to unite with you on a solidarity to women level, because, never mind being a woman, you're sucky as a person.
Step four: It's a brave one but boys can be our sisters....I know some great ones really, they'd give other sisters a run for their money!
Follow Rosa Doherty on Twitter: www.twitter.com/Rosa_Doherty