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Bisexuality, Bigotry and Bindel

Posted: 23/06/2012 00:00

Last week Julie Bindel told bisexual women that if they had an ounce of sexual politics, they would stop sleeping with men. Immediately a Facebook group sprung up, entitled "400 Women Called Sarah". Inspired by 'Project Steve' which countered a list of scientists who doubted evolution by producing a far longer list of scientists called Steve who supported it, this group hoped to find at least 400 women called Sarah who believe that bisexuality exists and should not be condemned.

I am a woman called Sarah who has identified as bisexual since the age of 15 (and, to cap it all, I have the temerity to be married to a man; Julie Bindel would no doubt detest me, especially as I proudly call myself a feminist). I joined the group and watched with interest as it mushroomed (membership stood at 586 at the most recent count). Lots of Sarahs, and even some Saras, of hugely varied sexual persuasions, joined the group and the lively conversation.

The tone of the conversation was, and continues to be, largely positive. One of the 586 Sarahs wrote on the Facebook page, "Hello fellow Sarahs, non-Sarahs and supporters of liberation and equality!" However, not surprisingly, much anger has been shown about Julie Bindel's article. One Sarah wrote, "to label yourself a feminist and lesbian doesn't entitle you to preach to others about their behaviour."

Bindel's rejection of the LGBTQQI grouping and her transphobic beliefs also came in for scrutiny, with one woman - Sarah - quoting Bindel's very offensive claim that she '"do[es] not wish to be lumped in with an ever-increasing list of folk defined by 'odd' sexual habits or characteristics." Another woman - a Sara this time - demanded Bindel apologise for her comments.

As the recent Bisexuality Report highlighted - and as Bindel's article reiterated - biphobia is still sadly very prevalent and this has a hugely negative effect on the lives of many bisexuals. The report made reference to a number of studies which repeatedly found that bisexual people are more likely to suffer from mental health problems and less likely to be at ease with their sexuality or 'out' to family and friends than gay men and lesbians. One of the reasons for this, the report concluded, was the often negative response bisexuals get from both heterosexuals and gay people.

Bindel has no doubt encountered homophobia throughout her life. It is a pity that rather than engendering compassion, her experiences have rather made her so very bitter, territorial and judgemental. Be just like me, she demands, or I will condemn you. In telling bisexual women that they are somehow 'traitors' to feminism if they ever deign to sleep with men, she is metering out the very same cruelty herself.

Luckily most women realise that being a feminist isn't only an option for lesbians, and that sexual politics is about much more than simply who one chooses to sleep with. Indeed, this bizarre belief of Bindel's makes her appear to be a dinosaur. More importantly, her claims are damaging, retrograde and ultimately destructive to the women's movement that she claims to feel so passionately about.

However, one thing is for sure: in ordering bisexual women to bury half of their identity and to live a lie, she has unwittingly brought together a movement of people who believe that we should be true to our feelings and confound the bigoted biphobes. And 586 of them happen to be called Sarah.

 
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Last week Julie Bindel told bisexual women that if they had an ounce of sexual politics, they would stop sleeping with men. Immediately a Facebook group sprung up, entitled "400 Women Called Sarah". I...
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04:44 PM on 06/27/2012
Great article. Really, I did not know "biphobia" was an issue in the gay community. I thought it was just lumped in with homophobia. Intresting that a community who fights for the right to be with the ones they love would have intolerance of a group people who are fighting for the right to be with the ones they love.
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qsfoxx
still chasing the wascally wabbit...
09:34 AM on 06/27/2012
God help the son of a man-hating lesbian mother.
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waterhound
I Think ,Therefore I Am.
06:28 AM on 06/27/2012
WOW 586 what a movement lol
02:44 AM on 06/27/2012
Someone explain this to me: Why would a 'gay' woman be attracted to a very "male-looking, butch" female with manly traits? And vise versa: A gay man attracted to another gay man that is "feminine"? IF I were a "gay female", then I would want a very feminine woman, not some butch manly type. (I am straight, female and very feminine, that likes manly men). Just say'n.
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Anna French
12:11 AM on 07/05/2012
What kind of thing do you mean by 'manly traits'?

I can't speak for anyone else, but I would be attracted to a person as a whole, rather than what they look like. Their clothes, haircut etc wouldn't be that important. Some people may have feelings about gender in common. For others those feelings might differ, but complement each other. Perhaps that "male-looking, butch female" identifies as gender-queer.

Why would a heterosexual woman fancy a man with long hair who moisturises? Aren't those "female traits"?

Views on gender and sexuality can be pretty arbitrary and proscriptive. If people are attracted to each other and can be happy together, does it really matter?
12:56 AM on 06/27/2012
The shewoman man haters club at it again! On another note, talk about alphabet soup... LGBTQQI
12:55 AM on 06/27/2012
I just couldn't Go there! The thought of being with another woman makes me sick. I say,Male and Female is the Only way to go.
12:36 AM on 06/27/2012
Being a bisexual or feminist is not an attractive option
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tersamski
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11:20 PM on 06/26/2012
I don't understand why people feel the need to discuss every facet of their lives. Who cares if you like men or women? Who cares if you are a feminist or not? It is no one's business but yours. If you care what other people think about you while you are trying to be yourself or find yourself, you will never be truly happy. All you can be is the best woman you can be.You can't ever change what other people think. The only person you have control over is you. As long as you are honest with yourself and your partner, it should not even matter what the rest of the world thinks. Those who sit in judgement over others waste a lot of time when they should be using it to fix what is wrong in themselves.
12:10 AM on 06/27/2012
You are so correct
TomMartin
Freedom and equality.
04:15 AM on 06/27/2012
People have to live among people, so no wonder we have to care what others think. Unless you prefer being a hermit.
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qsfoxx
still chasing the wascally wabbit...
09:36 AM on 06/27/2012
...and people tend to gravitate and associate with others like themselves.
08:31 PM on 06/26/2012
Bisexual women or lesbians who like a man now and then. Maybe women who like threesomes. For the men; you could have two women totally angry at you, as you satisfied niether.
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shortguy54
Short, balding, brilliant... (well, maybe not so)
03:44 PM on 06/26/2012
I wrote this somewhere else before, but here it is again: My mom was a feminist before feminists were invented. She told me she abandoned the movement in the 80s "when the lesbians hijacked it." It seems not much has changed since then!
01:31 AM on 06/27/2012
the feminist movement started in the early eighteen hundreds, women were fighting for suffrage for about eighty years before we guilted the president and congress to give us what we wanted. after that the feminist movement became more disorganized and we never really got enough people moving in the same direction at the same time. the reason the equal rights act was never passed was because there were plenty of women at the time that didn't want to be called up in the draft. Now the major problem is that feminists are usually man haters, mostly because if a woman behaves like she has equal rights, she usually gets them; because if she doesn't she will fight for them. So, it isn't that being a feminist has changed, but rather being feminine has changed, rarely do we need to fight for our rights, now most of those who are still fighting are doing so just to fight. with a few causes worth fighting for mixed in. Don't think less of the feminist movements of the past just because the current generation is ineffective, there will come a time when feminists might just need to band together again.
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DJPotterWriter
12:51 PM on 06/26/2012
I find identity politics so boring. It's just another manifestation of the undying, primordial urge to tribalism.
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qsfoxx
still chasing the wascally wabbit...
09:26 AM on 06/26/2012
Many bisexual women are lesbians in denial or, otherwise, women who are sexually attracted to feminine appearance but who prefer male penetration.
JimOKC
Logic, not ideology...
02:10 AM on 06/27/2012
Another internet expert speaks.
06:35 AM on 06/27/2012
Facts? Stats? Interviews? Something to back up your claim?
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pslcitizen
I intend to live forever. So far, so good.
08:44 AM on 06/26/2012
I don't know what to say about all this..but I hope everyone is happy! :o)
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sedagive42
08:47 PM on 06/26/2012
I was mulling the comment above yours when I read what you had to say. I agree, I am not sure what all this is about. Any guess why a persons sexuality has to look like a corporate hierarchy and be given a job description and title? I guess it is how being a vegetarian has changed within my lifetime, you used to just not eat meat, then it was nothing with eyes, then not (or maybe was) macrobiotic, or without milk or eggs or whatever. In my ignorance I didn't keep up with the global nature, I just ask what can you eat and go from there?. Maybe that is why people don't have dinner parties anymore and include people who are "interesting" to liven it up a bit. Used to be fun to discuss sex, politics, and religion with folks without people getting their panties in a wad, or get nasty and judgmental. Ah, it was so much easier when we were both warmed and entertained by fire.
09:06 PM on 06/25/2012
"The Prejudice Bisexual Women Still Face..." FROM OTHER WOMEN

You left that out of the headline. Fixed it for you.