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Over In England, The Bedtime War Rages On

18/01/2017 12:33 GMT | Updated 18/01/2017 12:33 GMT

It would seem that my pre-mummy, delusional bedtime dream is shared by a primary school in Wisconsin, America. According to a recent article, this school decided to help parents with bedtimes, kindly providing them with a 'helpful chart' outlining suggested times on their FB page. It helpfully outlines times for bed (sleep time) in order to wake up at certain times (wake time) i.e. If a six year old goes to bed at 7:00pm they will wake at 6:45am.

Guessing the school felt it had to act, probably due to a few kids' snoring keeping the others awake, someone somewhere in the school decided to dream up a table and fill it with a load of shite of times and label it: 'Bedtime Table'.

I am amazed my kid's secondary school haven't jumped on this bandwagon and put up a similar one. I have it on good authority from my kids that 'everyone' falls asleep in lessons. Now, not wanting to wrongly guess it's the lesson that sends them to sleep, it's probably due to not getting enough sleep.

Only the other day whilst in school, my son was having a quick power nap. However, he crucially forgot to remove the contraband from his mouth and suddenly woke to his name being shouted, causing a choking reaction as he believed the 'lump' in his mouth was in fact a fly! Apparently his relief was immense when he spat it out to find it was in fact his bit of chewing gum.

Over here in England the only FB pages we have connected to both my kids' schools are for ranting about anything school related or sharing important fluffy information, such as recipe ideas for dinner.

The 'only in America' chart recommends children aged five have 12 hours' sleep. I agree and would champion this if anyone was willing to listen at home.

It further advises children aged 12+ need between nine and 10 hours sleep. I'm assuming that's for the weekends, in which case mine are thankfully getting more than the recommended amount - clearly nailing that bit. Sadly, on school nights it would seem that unless they are all in bed and fast asleep by 9pm, they will not get the required amount of sleep! The chances of this happening probably as likely as me finding out Victoria's Secret!!

A few parents, the kind that every school has, praised the guide, commenting, "Very true I follow this", calling it, "Awesome", adding they were going to show it to their kids if they complained. Wow, they must have really easy to scare kids. I can just imagine the scenario here: whilst arguing the toss about bedtimes I whip out this handy chart and the kids all recoil back to their beds - but hey, that's just a scenario, the reality would see them laughing and probably throwing it in the bin, or more realistically the floor space surrounding the bin.

Over on FB, the 'comment here if you are on planet Earth' remarks such as, "Bet there's not many who live by this table" (lol thanks for the laugh that is hilarious), and my favourite one: "This chart was clearly written by someone who doesn't have kids or doesn't live in the real world", add a more realistic view to the post.

I don't know about anyone else, but if you are one of the lucky few whose bedtimes are a non eventful process, then I envy you. Bedtimes are an eventful occurrence in our house to say the least! However, I often wallow in the proud cloud, that if anything, all of mine could go on to become great hostage negotiators.

A lot of wandering around and sudden urges to chat about their day happens only on the stroke of bedtime. Sometimes the wandering is accompanied with a puzzled expression - usually mine - as they don't have their phone in hand, but rather a vague of explanation of looking for something, beyond any description, crucially adding a few extra minutes to the avoidance of bed. Luckily for them I am on hand to intervene and assure them I will continue the search for 'nothing' once they get to bed!

Not wanting to compare, as there is no actual comparison, I have put together a snippet of a typical evening, fighting the bedtime battle, and unfortunately can offer no assurance that it gets better as they get older ( our war has been raging on for 16 years). I'll leave you to work out the chances!

21:00

  • Bedtime warning sounds out to deaf ears
  • Repeat above
  • Repeat above
  • Apparently they all heard me the first time
  • The unfairness of it all debate
  • The homework he didn't have is due in tomorrow
  • Mum you have remembered it's my school assembly tomorrow?
  • Has no idea what the homework is and why would he ask the teacher!!! It's easier to ask his mates that don't know either
  • Shit what assembly?
  • Time for a wander - the phone needs a walk
  • Explaining why it's not easier to go to bed in their uniform
  • Guidance given on where to wander to
  • Have I seen their library books due in tomorrow!?
  • Wandering again - this time pretending to look for something with added puzzled expression
  • Kids all finally in bed
  • Are they asleep? Yes, they must be, they just said they were!
  • No they are not on their phones, why do I always assume they are?
  • Shouts out for phone charger for the phone he is not on
  • Desperate for a drink, they are dying of thirst x 4
  • Incoming text from son who is not on phone with breakfast order

23:00-23:30

  • Do I wanna hear about his day? NOO

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