Whether you're a circus performer, a Wall Street banker, a sushi chef, a submarine captain or a librarian, self-doubt will be a regular visitor.
There are people who doubt they can experience love because they don't know how. People who doubt they can make the jump to being self-employed because they aren't really a grown-up. And people who doubt they have what it takes to really "make it", because they're too old to change.
Self-doubt is that horrible, gut-plummeting question of whether you're good enough.
It's a yawning, gaping lack of confidence in yourself and your ability that makes you feel small and alone like a scared penguin in a haunted tunnel.
So to hell with that. Let's do something about it, shall we?
1. Check the evidence
You've had doubts before, right? Whether those doubts were about studying, relationships, new jobs or anything else, you've been there before.
And yet you're here, now. You've come a long way. The evidence supports that you've survived this life thing so far, even with all those times you've doubted yourself. And as the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour, it's odds on that you'll continue to survive, no matter how big the self-doubt.
The self-doubt wants you to feel small and it might even want you to panic a little. But as the facts support, you're bigger than it will ever be.
2. What if it was there to help you?
Doubt can be confusing. It spins around and makes you wonder which way's up, where North is and whether you can trust the ground you're standing on.
But sometimes, it's there to help prepare you.
You don't have to pander to it or do what it tells you, but what if the voice of doubt was there to help you?
What if it was there to highlight a way for you to get ready? What if it was there to help you prepare? Or what if it was there to make sure you get out of your own way?
Doubt can be more of a downer than a greasy weasel down a luge run, but taking something positive, helpful and enabling from it can be a surprising and wonderful twist.
3. Put on your lab coat
Doubt rears it's head when there's change, risk and possibility in the air, because it hates that stuff. So an effective strategy is one that reduces the threat level down to something that's eminently manageable or doable.
TV's Sheldon Copper would approach a challenge by breaking it down and running an experiment to see what happens. Then he'd learn from that experiment and conduct another one. Then he'd probably freak out that he was wearing his Tuesday socks on a Wednesday and secure himself in his room because the world no longer makes sense.
Maybe that's not the best example I could have found, but the take-away here is that there's something to be said about approaching things a little more scientifically.
Running small experiments is a fantastic way for you try something and see what happens. You get to change a variable and learn from what happens, without the sense that you're irrevocably committed.
Reduce the perceived risks by running small experiments, and you simultaneously reduce self-doubt.
4. Swap to a better narrative
That voice of doubt is a great storyteller.
It'll spin a yarn about how bad things could get and how horrible you'll feel. It'll regale you with tales of people better than you who've tried and failed. And it'll tell you stories as you fall asleep of how you can live happily ever after if you just don't do anything stupid.
They're just stories.
None of us know what's going to happen.
So you get to choose which stories you listen to, and which stories inspire you into action.
Choose a better narrative, one that sees you as whole and resourceful or one that sees doubt simply as a sign that you're alive and well and striving, and see how that changes things.
5. Rally supporters
Trees have roots. Shoes have soles. Pies have pastry.
There will be times when the voice of doubt is so shouty and controlling that you need some external input to help you through. Your supporters--the people who want the best for you even when you don't--are there to do just that.
This isn't about throwing yourself a pity party or boosting your ego, it's about asking for help and support so you can take your next step rather than sink into the mud.
So take a look around you. Your supporters might include old friends or new friends, a partner or a family member, a colleague, a coach, a priest or even a pet (yes, really).
You're allowed to ask for help and support, and if the shoe was on the other foot, wouldn't you want to offer that help and support to someone who really needed it?
When that voice of doubt has its teeth into you and you need support to feel strengthened, it's time to call in your supporters.
How do you deal with self-doubt?
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