Suzi Godson
Suzi Godson writes a weekly sex and relationship column for The Times newspaper and is the editor of Suzi is also the author of the award-winning The Sex Book (Cassell) which has been translated into fifteen languages. A selection of her best Times articles were published in the book ‘Sex Counsel’

Entries by Suzi Godson

Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Censor Porn

(22) Comments | Posted 15 December 2014 | (00:00)

1. On December 1, Audiovisual Media Services Regulations 2014 were introduced to subject British made online porn to the same restrictions as R18 material sold in licensed sex shops.

2. This means that some sex acts have now been banned, but only from films that are produced and sold...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Persuade Her to Watch Porn

(6) Comments | Posted 6 December 2014 | (00:00)

1. Don't bullshit. The vast majority of porn is made by men, for men, so don't try and persuade her with spurious arguments about women 'choosing' to work in the industry. Porn is rarely a choice that educated, or wealthy women make, and it is not an industry that you...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Tell an Asexual Woman She Hasn't Met the Right Person Yet

(10) Comments | Posted 29 November 2014 | (00:00)

1. Because they challenge the assumption that sex is a biological necessity, asexuals frequently encounter people who try to persuade them that they just haven't met the right person, or are secretly gay, or that they would like sex if they just tried it.

2. But people who are asexual...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Belittle School Sex Education

(1) Comments | Posted 22 November 2014 | (00:00)

This week, Yusuf Patel, founder of 'SRE Islamic' warned MPs at the Commons Education Select Committee that sex and relationships education (SRE) should not be taught to schoolchildren. The reasons he gave were, and I quote, "when research has been done with child abusers a lot of the time they...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Think 'Affairs? So What?'

(3) Comments | Posted 13 November 2014 | (00:00)

The journalist India Knight has been busy plugging her new book In Her Prime: Older, Wiser, Happier. It's full of Knight's expert advice on pressing issues such as 'using blusher' or the 'rule' for eye shadows and liners - something involving the colour wheel apparently. All harmless enough, until she...

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10 Things You Need to Know Before You Get Your Knickers in a Knot About Underage Sex

(9) Comments | Posted 8 November 2014 | (00:00)

1. This week, Sarah Carter of the Family Education Trust caused a media storm when she told the Commons Education Select Committee that guidance from sexual health and advice service 'Brook' suggests that sex between 13-year-olds is normal. She was referring to the "Traffic Light Tool" a guide...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before Wine O' Clock

(4) Comments | Posted 25 October 2014 | (01:00)

1. Alcohol is one of the few legal vices left to the middle aged, but our relationship with it is conflicted. In our youth we went out and got drunk at the weekends but we couldn't afford to do it every night of the week. Now, going out is too...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Argue About Money

(1) Comments | Posted 12 October 2014 | (13:23)

1. Arguments about money are the top predictor of divorce (Dew, Britt, & Huston, 2012). Couples who disagree about finance once a week are over 30% more likely to get divorced than couples who disagree about finances a few times a month (Dew, 2009).

2. Sometimes couples argue about money...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before World Heart Day

(1) Comments | Posted 27 September 2014 | (01:00)

Monday, the 29 September, is World Heart Day. This year the focus of the World Heart Federation's campaign is prevention and the emphasis is on finding easy ways to incorporate exercise into daily life. They advocate walking to work, taking the stairs - all the usual stuff - but what...

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10 Things You Need to Know Before You Do 'Girl on Girl'

(5) Comments | Posted 10 September 2014 | (12:16)

1. When Katie Perry released her hit single "I kissed a girl" in 2008, a Cosmopolitan magazine poll reported that 54% of women between the ages of 18 and 24 had done the same thing. In 2011, further probing research by the same magazine into "How He'd React If You...

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10 Things You Neeed to Know Before You Take Natural Remedies to Improve Sexual Function

(3) Comments | Posted 21 August 2014 | (17:17)

1. Although the internet is awash with promotions for natural sex remedies such as Avena Sativa, Damiana, Ginseng, Ginkgo Biloba, Maca, Muira Puama, or Zinc, there is no credible scientific evidence to show that any of them improve libido, or sexual function. More importantly, they can be dangerous if you...

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10 Things You Need to Know Before You Contemplate Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted 1 August 2014 | (01:00)

1. Younger men are less interested in getting married, but after the age of 26, men develop a stronger desire for marriage than women (South, 1993).

2. That's probably because men benefit more from marriage than women do, particularly as they get older (Kilmartin, 2007). Men who...

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10 Things You Need To Know Before You Pathologise Perimenopause

(0) Comments | Posted 8 July 2014 | (20:50)

1. Peri-menopause generally begins in the mid to late forties. It takes anything from four to ten years and the average age for the onset of true menopause (when periods cease completely) is 51 years.

2. Perimenopause, like puberty and pregnancy, is the path to a natural life transition,...

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10 Things You Need to Know Before You Make Assumptions About Gender and Domestic Violence

(36) Comments | Posted 27 June 2014 | (01:00)

1. The government defines domestic violence as any incident, or pattern of incidents, of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence, or abuse, between those aged 16 or over, who are, or have been, intimate partners, or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass, but is not limited...

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10 Things You Need to Know Before You Have a Brazillian Wax

(0) Comments | Posted 19 June 2014 | (10:48)

It's bikini weather and the world cup is happening in Brazil. How could I resist? Here's ten things you need to know before you get a Brazillian.

1. In 1987, the Padilha sisters -Jocely, Jonice, Janea, Joyce, Jussara, Juracy, and Judseia - introduced the "Brazillian Wax" at their at their...

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10 Things You Need to Know Before You Lose Touch With Each Other

(0) Comments | Posted 5 June 2014 | (01:00)

In 1967 the humanistic psychologist Dr. Sidney Jourard made an informal study of touch. He travelled to several countries observing how many times people touched one another in informal settings. The cultural differences were striking. In Puerto Rico he counted 180 touches an hour between two people. In Mexico City...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Dismiss Casual Sex

(1) Comments | Posted 24 May 2014 | (01:00)

Here's 10 things 18-year-old Phin Lyman of Wellington College, Berkshire should have known before he 'outed' himself as a virgin in order to make a stand against the 'casual' way his generation treats sex.

1. In psychology studies, men invariably report a greater number of sexual partners than women, but...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Create a Step Family

(0) Comments | Posted 16 May 2014 | (01:00)

The Office of National Statistics has revealed that the number of stepfamilies in the UK dropped from 631,000 in 2001 to 544,000 in 2011, a slump of 14% in just a decade. The drop has been interpreted as a reflection of the difficulties of assimilating children from different families into...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before You See a Couple Counsellor

(0) Comments | Posted 10 May 2014 | (01:00)

1. Make sure your therapist is properly qualified to work with couples. Without adequate training a therapist can't handle the conflicts that inevitably arise during sessions.

2. There are currently no laws to state who can practice as a counsellor or psychotherapist in the UK, but accreditation...

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Ten Things You Need to Know Before You Have Kids When You Are Living Together

(1) Comments | Posted 2 May 2014 | (01:00)

Sir James Munby, president of the High Court Family Division and the most senior family judge in England and Wales wants the law to be changed so that cohabiting couples have similar legal protections to married couples. It's a reform that is long overdue, but it is unlikely to be...

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