Suzy Miller
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I am the inventor of Divorce in a Box, a stay out of court travel guide for divorce which includes over hundreds £s/$s of complementary access to skilled professional advice in the UK and the USA. Ribbon is optional. Available for £45/$95 including postage at www.sosdivorceinabox.com (UK) or www.divorceinabox.us (USA)

I am also the creator of the UK's first 'divorce fair' Starting Over Show which supports people going through major life changes like divorce, redundancy, bereavement and other tough stuff.


My partner ended our 10 year relationship in 2003. Our three children were aged 6, 4 and 1 at the time, and it was the most painful and traumatic experience of my life. However, as the years passed, I soon became grateful that my ex had the courage to end a relationship that was not truly feeding either of us and we now have a healthy respect for each other.

It was tough getting to where I am now, and on the way I learned that accessing the right information, support and help both legally, financially and emotionally was essential. My ex partner is a supportive co-parent, living in the same village, sharing the same values and sometimes it amazes me how we got to be in such a good place despite some very difficult times getting here.

It takes courage and vision and a determination to believe in a positive future when life seems nothing but a struggle, but the joy of children is that they provide a massive incentive to make that extra effort. It is not a journey anyone needs to make alone. There are skilled people who can help with all aspects of Starting Over who are there to be accessed via the www.startingovershow.co.uk website.

Information and Inspiration are what helped me move forward in my life. I want to make those resources available to other people through the Starting Over Shows, and through the SOS Village resource hub.

I am now bringing the concept of SOS down to a local level. The SOS road shows will provide a holistic approach to divorce and break up, taking place in towns throughout the UK on Thursday evenings.

As you can see, Starting Over Show and Divorce in a Box are more than just an tools for stay out of court divorce – they are a new way of thinking.

Blog Entries by Suzy Miller

I Want More Time With My Kids: Court or Not to Court - That Is the Question?

(0) Comments | Posted 28 March 2013 | (13:44)

 

Despite railing against adversarial divorce in my role as the UK's Alternative Divorce Guide, the one time that going to court can seem a necessary evil is over disputes regarding contact with the kids.

 

I have witnessed a father who - with the help of national...

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The True Divorce Stats the Marriage Foundation Want You to Know

(6) Comments | Posted 18 February 2013 | (14:52)

 

Perhaps it was just my imagination, but I thought I could feel a slight frisson of unease when I introduced myself at the Marriage Foundation conference in London 2013 as: "I'm Suzy Miller, of Divorce in a Box".

I was not one of the speakers...

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The Big Five Divorce Myths

(3) Comments | Posted 14 December 2012 | (16:49)

There are five main reasons that families today can find themselves in an adversarial divorce process. These reasons are caused partly by the divorce industry, and partly by people not wanting to take full responsibility for keeping their divorce non-adversarial. It's up to us to change...

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Infidelity: It's None Of My Business

(2) Comments | Posted 23 October 2012 | (19:03)

The shock of the breakup was so sudden, so extreme, that normal behaviour would have seemed inappropriate.

The events that lead up to it should have left clues, but they didn't register: The bank letters addressed in his name that I didn't open because I'd learned that it was, apparently,...

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Do Lawyers Really Want More Friendly Divorces?

(2) Comments | Posted 2 October 2012 | (13:02)

In the week following Norwegian statistics showing that couples who share the housework are more likely to get divorced, and concern over the recent figures indicating a rise in the divorce rate in the UK, the national family law association Resolution are running their first ever

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Let Parents do the Job of the CSA? Are You Crazy?

(1) Comments | Posted 12 July 2012 | (18:00)

The Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) will shortly be launching a new £14m Innovation Fund across Great Britain.  It will support separated families and help them to collaborate in the best interests of their children.

In plain English, what I see happening here is partly the Government needing to make...

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A Strange Gift

(1) Comments | Posted 29 April 2012 | (11:52)

It's a January morning in 2003 and I can't bring myself to take the kids to school. What will I say when someone asks me "How are you?" The answer, you see, is just not the stuff of polite conversation.
 
"W E L L... My partner of...

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Suicidal Children and Divorce Reform

(1) Comments | Posted 14 February 2012 | (23:00)

With divorce leading to suicidal tendencies in children, and Canadian research suggesting that divorce may double the risk of children having a stroke in their adult years, should the legal profession remain the 'gatekeepers' to the divorce process?

In a divorce survey by Mischcon de Reya, one in five parents...

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My Kids Re-Write of the 10 Commandments

(1) Comments | Posted 22 August 2011 | (20:01)

My three children have often despaired of their mother's attempts at 'dating' post break up from their dad. One evening I asked them to give me 10 Commandments that I could share with other single parents, about how to make life less crazy for the kids when we go searching...

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