Divorce or relationship breakdown can lead to emotional meltdown. Most of us try to hold it together in the workplace but that isn't always possible. But if you proudly feel that you are really, really under control, just use this check-list to see if divorce is affecting your life in the workplace.
Youn reports that in his experience the largest proportion of new divorcees are seeking a "back on the market" cosmetic enhancement, or looking to get the procedure that previous partners might otherwise have frowned upon. It is, I believe, a journey of empowerment, a way of "fixing" the broken insides by changing the outside.
The general assumption that 'time heals' makes people do nothing about their emotional pains. It validates the idea that prolonged anxiety or depression will eventually just go away. Even the language of 'moving on' implies that some kind of temporal 'passing' is required to get over something. This is simply not true.
Your relationship has ended. You suffer through all that comes along with a breakup--the tears, the eating your feelings. Then perhaps you've accepted a date invitation with that cute guy from the gym. And just like clockwork, as if they can smell the scent of you getting over them, your ex asks if you can meet for coffee.
You've just broken up with your boyfriend and the overwhelming advice and 'pick yourself up' tips from friends and family start flooding in. Those words might make you feel better, maybe for a moment or so, but the ugly truth is any real breakup, regardless of who initiated it, needs time and space.
If you are separated or divorced, then 2013 will hold all sorts of anxieties and fears about what it may bring. It can feel like a long road of conflict and hostility and it can feel like an overwhelming amount of loss or emptiness. Although it may not seem like this right now, it is a fact that divorce is an end, but it is also very much a new beginning.
The marriage campaigners have banged on for years about no fault divorces making it too easy to give up on marriage. They are still campaigning that for those unable to afford costly lawyers, a divorce obtained through the CO-OP will mean people will jump out of their marriages at the drop of a hat. I don't think so.
Summer is looming on the horizon and the usual applications for summer holiday contact are piling up on lawyer's desks and in the lists of County Courts up and down the land. Mediators are beginning to see their first lot of seasonal cases based on how much time children should spend during the long summer holidays with each parent and where that time should be spent.
I was interested to read that there are now plans to introduce legislation to promote a child's ongoing relationship with both parents. We all know that what that really means is legislation to register that the father's relationship is just as important as the mother's relationship with their children.