A wife should never criticise her man or tell him what to do, lest he become angry enough to drink, and/or go off with another woman. Instead, she should concentrate on changing her own attitude, with the help of (a male) God.
It's always easier to see through the foibles of past generations, and much harder to view one's own reality with the same critical acumen. So I ask the reader to make an effort: try to view today's codependency culture with the eyes of future generations.
Often, dependence of any kind is presumed - without reflection - to be a problem that must be solved. For the record, every human being depends on air, food and water - are we all sick, or defective, for this reason?