For me, right now, it is walking in my beloved Brockwell Park in Brixton. As a psychotherapist, I tell my clients that happiness is the purpose of life. But it is not possible - or helpful - to be happy all the time. For balance, we need to experience a range of emotions (including difficult ones that popular culture seems so adverse to).
In a way I do envy those that are childless and about to embark on a relationship that will see them marry and have kids as the years progress. Single parents like us do the best they can for ourselves and for our kids - but the best time to get it right is before you've got it wrong, but some people need to get it wrong before they are ready to get it right!
I had always expected I would have kids. As a child you dress dollies and give them names. Mine were two girls, just like my sister and I. Charlotte and Helena. Then you start dating boyfriends and imagine what your children would look like. Then life happens. Career, divorce, loss of a parent, sadness.
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Last Wednesday I went on a date. I put on too much make up, then took most of it off. I tried on knee high boots before deciding they made me look like a low rent version of Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman. By the time I ran, breathless, for the tube I'd pretty much metamorphosed into Mary Whitehouse.