Often people are aware of their addictive behaviour and would like to stop or slow down. However, the illusion of the addiction can be so powerful that the fear of not being able to cope without it is overwhelming and can suffocate even the smallest attempt to take control of the situation and muster the confidence to change.
I teach my daughters to be more like Nigella and maintain financial independence in any relationship they have. I realise she is in a very different financial position to begin with than most of us, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't also keep some money separate for ourselves and retain some financial independence at all cost. It's a huge lesson and I have never wished I was more like Nigella than now.