You may have been taught by society never to apologise. Some people view it as a sign of weakness, while others think it's just humiliating to apologise after a fight. Apologising doesn't mean you're allowing the other party to go on a power trip over you.

I'm at odds with the whole idea of living some puritanical existence where self control becomes self obsession, this does not appeal. There is a middle ground in all of our lives where the angel and devil meet and shake hands. I guess it all boils down to understanding that are you happy with the way you look and feel?

I once read that who we are is somewhere between how we see ourselves and how others see us. I have always found this interesting. Especially when the...

After coaching people for years on how to build confidence, I noticed a few of the same tips always seemed to come up trumps ... Some will resonate with you, others will seem rather old hat and tired, but the fact of the matter is that these really do work.

Building a healthy self esteem can do wonders for your life. The way you deal with people on a personal and professional level are all affected by how you perceive yourself. Having a low level of self confidence may greatly affect your life; you end up having a harder time performing at work, maintaining healthy relationships, and enjoying life.

We need an answer to everything. Don't have your dream career? You can be a high flyer if you read the right books. Failing relationship? You're not trying hard enough. Unhappy? You're obviously not attending the workshops.

The very latest thinking is that those who score high on self-control lead lives characterised by effective habits and routines, rather than deploying that much active resistance. Better self-control seems to involve avoiding temptations, rather than resisting them.

I've realized that the start of a new year is more a time for reflection rather than going out, downing shots, being sick on my favourite shoes and then trying desperately to find a cab home.

Whether I'm in the countryside or town, on a dark, cold, rainy night or a day lit and warmed by brilliant sunshine, one constant is clear to me - it is all made possible by that strange phenomenon we call Life - and I am drawn to wonder - what purpose does it have?

My therapy sessions helped me deal with my addictive personality and my ridiculous relationships with shopping, sex, drugs and food. I'd tried, tasted, sniffed and snorted, filled my flat with clothes and possessions I never needed nor wanted and ate and drank my way around the world - but nothing made me happy.

The secret to optimum performance is not to get faster, but in fact to get less slow, to do what you know you can do regardless of where or why or in front of who. Sporting greats are the ones who perform like it doesn't matter even when it REALLY does.

[1 minute self development] I was out with a friend celebrating his new job. He was chuffed. No doubt about it, this one was a big step up for him an...

No. It's a tiny word with huge meaning. It can be the key to your liberation, it can improve your health, transform your sex life, revitalise relationships and help you regain control in your life. All this from two little letters. And yet we struggle to use it.

It's not for me to suggest that you are suffering multiple personality disorder, but rather that we are all, quite often, visited by different version...

What I'm about to say may fly in the face of what you've been taught, but I'm going to say it anyway. Your real biggest weakness (the one you would never say at interview) is actually your biggest strength.

If you’ve made any New Year’s resolutions for 2012, the chances are you’ve broken them already. New research shows that the average person lasts...

It's that time of year. Most people will have already made resolutions. Twitter and Facebook are awash with posts declaring how people are planning to get organised, eat better, get fit. I say don't do it. Rip them up, press delete. Don't set yourself up to fail.

It occurred to me at the end of a long week last week that I was actually still happy. You might detect a hint of surprise there, and you'd be right....

My flatmate gets a bit haggered. Overwhelmed from lack of sleep and the many tasks ahead of her. She wanted to apply for postgraduate studies, clear...

I never thought of self-improvement as a particularly American or female trait, as described in this recent New York Times article, but American or no...

Some of us wish they had courage and beauty of Beyonce, while some of us want to have the moves and rhythms of Shakira.

The personal growth industry is built on the idea that we can get fired up by a walk-on-coals weekend seminar or a new book and then radically change our life. Most of us have been 'motivated' in this way, and I'm not saying it's bad. But what tends to happen? A couple of weeks after the big epiphany we go back to our normal selves and the life we had before.