15/06/2009 06:54 BST | Updated 22/05/2015 06:12 BST

Tip Of The Day: Celebrate Your Post Pregnancy Body

Ladies, let's talk boobs.

Even if you never breastfeed, you will probably find yourself drifting up, then down, a few cup sizes over the course of your pregnancy and birth. And the pair you end up with may not totally resemble the pair you started out with.

Then consider the effect pregnancy has on the rest of your body. I know nature has a reason for everything, but why did she think that I would be happy with legs that looked like treetrunks made of porridge?

It's no wonder that we see so much emphasis on 'getting your figure back'. But the truth is that even if you get to the same weight you were before, your post-pregnancy body may be a very different shape to the one you had before you used it to make a real live person.

This is why I would like to encourage you to love the skin you're in, and celebrate your post-pregnancy body for the miracle it is.

Stretch marks, caesarian scar, collapsed boobs, wobbly tum, your body is the map of your life. Don't forget that there are thousands of women out there who can't have children and would love to have what you've got.

In the US, Bonnie Crowder has set up a website called The Shape of a Mother, which sets out to show how real women look during and just after pregnancy. Crowder calls the post-pregnancy body "one of society's greatest secrets" and she's right.

If you're the only woman you know that has given birth recently, then you may be shocked by the ravages it can wreak on your body. I don't think I had ever seen a real life stretch mark before that day in late pregnancy when I looked down and there they were, making a tiger stripe pattern all over my abdomen.

Don't compare yourself to celebs, not even for a minute. Who knows what extra help they've had to make their figures magically snap back into place? And I bet they haven't had to keep a house running, or other children happy, or do all the long list of stuff you have to do at the same time. In fact, it's the celebs who are unusual, and the rest of us who are the real picture of what it is to give birth.

So salute the miracle of who you are and what you've achieved. Wear clothes that uplift you, rather than whatever happens to be clean. Take the time to put a bit of make up on or paint your nails.

We may not have the perfect bodies, but they're doing pretty good so far, so celebrate that fact.