You are allowed to feel a bit aggrieved and annoyed if people make your life difficult. The trick is to ensure you don't become ensnared in your own mood. If you let a difficult person ruin your entire day, you are letting them have control in your life. Why would you give a difficult person the reins to your fate?
Beth Burgess is a psychotherapist, coach and author at Smyls, where she specialises in treating addiction, anxiety disorders, stress, self-esteem, and mental health. Beth is the author of "The Recovery Formula: An Addict's Guide to Getting Clean & Sober Forever" and "The Happy Addict: How to be Happy in Recovery from Alcoholism or Drug Addiction." She has also published a mini ebook, "What is Self Esteem?" As someone who has herself recovered from alcoholism, social anxiety disorder, bulimia, self-harm and Borderline Personality Disorder, Beth has an empathy and insight that allow her to reach people in the darkest of places, and a determination to help others succeed. Beth is also the founder of Wiseiem, a website dedicated to helping everyone create health, wealth and happiness through wisdom. As a freelance writer, Beth regularly covers personal and professional development topics, but has written on everything from business to leisure. She also enjoys writing on social subjects, such as criminal justice, charity, and mental wellbeing. Find out what Beth is up to on her personal website, read more articles or watch videos by Beth.
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