The tipping point is a helpful idea, but in this case I can't point to one. I'm sure being a (foster) dad to a young girl for nearly two years has been part of the picture; the #metoo campaign has been part of the picture, but in truth I've been thinking about this stuff for a while now.
A British vicar living in Cape Town.
A British vicar living in Cape Town since 2010, working as the minister in charge of St Peter's church, Mowbray. I'm married to Bev since 1999 and have two foster children. I was born in Edinburgh and raised in Edinburgh, studied English Literature at St Andrews University and then lived in London from 1996 until moving to Cape Town. I'm a third generation Arsenal fan (because my Mum told me to be); and love most sports. I'm passionate about films, stories, homelessness and much else besides. I live with a degenerative arthritic condition affecting the spine and other joints (Ankylosing Spondylitis), depression, anxiety and PTSD.
If you're scared, you haven't let them win. If you're sad, you're not giving in. You're just being human. The 'keep calm and carry on' meme is all very well, but we have to carry on or life would cease to function.
22/06/2017 17:05 BST
What People Say When They Realise I'm Not Going To Get Better, And What I Want To Say In Return (But Rarely Do)
I live with the debilitating and incurable Ankylosing Spondylitis. It's a chronic disease which means it's not going anywhere, isn't going to kill me but does make life very, very hard. My pain can, on a very bad day, reach the level of childbirth without the obvious prospect of new life at the end of it
03/03/2017 13:40 GMT
27/02/2017 13:09 GMT
A.S. is a chronic, incurable, probably degenerative disease in the arthritis family affecting my spine, neck and other joints. It leaves me with daily flu-like fatigue. I have had these symptoms sporadically from the age of 20. Every day since I was 27, my first year of marriage. I am 43 years old.
18/01/2017 16:44 GMT
15/11/2016 14:00 GMT
<img alt="bmm banner.jpg" src="http://i.huffpost.com/gen/4815860/original.jpg" width="300" height="35" /> I'm a man in a fairly patriarchal culture, in a stream of the Christian church that has often overtly pushed the idea of 'strong' masculinity; where male Christians are routinely referred to as 'warriors' and the 'head of the family'; where a mega-church pastor once spoke of not wanting to worship a Jesus that he could beat up.
11/11/2016 16:40 GMT