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Hannah Greaves

Blogger, Student, Mother, Feminist

I'm Hannah, 21, and a full-time History Undergraduate student and Mum to Arlo, 3. I finished my last A level exam when I was 36 weeks pregnant and took what was effectively a maternity leave/gap year out to spend time raising my son alone, before starting a 3 year History and History and Philosophy of Science Degree at Leeds University. I started blogging to help inspire other young mothers to go into higher education and to try and challenge the stigma surrounding young single mothers; we are often labelled as stupid, irresponsible benefit scroungers who, by making the decision to have a child young have forfeited their aspirations and careers, something I hope to change. The University system in my experience is not easily accommodating for the unpredictability of parenthood, financially they are supportive but in terms of flexibility it is somewhat lacking, and this is somewhat challenging when you have an entire small unpredictable, human entirely dependent upon you

Walking around campus as a student parent is an entirely different experience, I am constantly aware of my status as someone not living the full student experience, its quite easy to take the little things as personally insulting' 'No I can't go to your last minute secret house party, I have to be home at half 5 before nursery closes' The freedom of the other students who possess the ability to leave the house after half past 7.

As a parent, I have become interested in Attachment Theory and try as much as I possibly can to be as Gentle and as Natural a parent as possible. I fully support breastfeeding for as long as the parent and child wish to do so, co-sleeping with your children and most importantly for me, babywearing. I am a volunteer at a Sling Library and have always loved keeping Arlo close and comfortable with me. The journey from A level student to parent was tough, it involved finding a whole new tribe of people, other mums to communicate with, people who are at very different stages in their life to me. Parenting is all about finding your tribe, the community of support and advice and relatability when it comes to the dark days of sleep deprivation and bleeding nipples.

My message is all about the plausibility of being a successful student parent, it just requires a unique determination, organisation and efficiency, and the ability to go without sleep, socialising and freedom for intense periods of time. However, to be brutally honest everything, the struggles of coming from such a bad place when I fell pregnant, the feelings of abandonment when my son's biological father and his family decided they did not want to be a part of our lives, to starting and attempting to socialise, make friends and balance a long commute with the responsibility of running a household on my own and raising a child, but way more to the point, actually enjoying it and thriving! I have learnt over the past 2 years how to enjoy the two very distinct spheres in which I live. That sometimes having an electronic babysitter is okay if essays are due and it's occasionally okay to leave uni early so I can spend an extra 3 hours at home just playing with Arlo and enjoying being a mum!
Pink

Pink Rethink

The problem with pink is not the colour itself, it is the narrow focus of what you as a young girl are told you can or can't like, what you should like because it has this one colour painted all over it. Pink was never on the <em>Harry Potter</em> lego I loved. There is so much more to a girl and to being the girl than this one colour appears to say.
23/01/2017 16:23 GMT
Its Time To Learn The True Meaning Of The Word

Its Time To Learn The True Meaning Of The Word Terrorism

Perhaps it's time that we viewed terror as not the threat of the other but threat and control from within or perhaps above. What Trump is doing in America is an act of Terror, to spread an agenda of fear, not through singular explosive acts, but by placing a fear of the unknown into people's heads Surely it the ultimate proof and ability of whiteness, that it can, in fact, behave as the perfect manipulator and creator of a society of fear, without being called a terrorist, while simultaneously labelling any opposition as committing acts of terror.
01/12/2016 11:18 GMT
Trying To Break Down My Experience Of White

Trying To Break Down My Experience Of White Privilege

This was always going to be difficult to write because anyway I try to formulate an argument, it ultimately ends up being paradoxical, yet another white girl adding her resoundingly privileged left-wing voice into an already flooded realm of anti-Trump protestations...
30/11/2016 16:16 GMT
Is The Male Abortion Ever

Is The Male Abortion Ever Okay?

I am interested in this dilemma as I personally have had the experience of this definition of the male abortion. I chose to continue with a pregnancy that my (at the time) partner did not want. He and his family severed all ties and physically distanced themselves. He had no experience of the pregnancy past the 10 week point, he is not on the birth certificate and has never made any contact with his biological son.
17/11/2016 17:17 GMT
Teaching A Modern

Teaching A Modern Masculinity

<img alt="bmm banner.jpg" src="http://i.huffpost.com/gen/4815860/original.jpg" width="300" height="35" /> Masculinity at the moment is so narrowly defined. The media shows images of hyper-masculinity: oiled, tanned, muscled, macho, with the means and affluence to sweep his woman off her feet, take care of her, provide for their family. It leaves very little scope for young boys to look at themselves and be okay with being different.
02/11/2016 17:47 GMT
Five Reasons To Love Being A Younger

Five Reasons To Love Being A Younger Mother

I'm writing this in response to a previous article on the benefits of being an older mum to highlight the differences and similarities between older and younger mums. We both face a certain type of stigma for many different reasons, but the fact remains that there is no right age to become a parent
27/10/2016 15:07 BST
Why I'm Raising My Son To Be A

Why I'm Raising My Son To Be A Feminist

It is crucial because our generation has the opportunity to break the cycle of internalised misogyny. If we reiterate the importance of consent, we will not be the parents of another generation of Brock Turners.
14/10/2016 17:36 BST
Not Not Being A

Not Not Being A Mum

I am not ungrateful or resentful about having Arlo, I want to make that incredibly clear. He is the light of my life but I am more than simply Arlo's mum, but being a mum doesn't make the rest of the world disappear.
19/09/2016 13:57 BST
Being the University

Being the University Mum

<img alt="thriving families.jpg" src="http://i.huffpost.com/gen/4511756/original.jpg" width="300" height="35" /> But so what? I'm not having THE university experience but I am having MY university experience, and its amazing. I have such a diverse group of friends and family from all different spheres, all at different stages in their life and I can draw great strength and wisdom from all.
11/08/2016 17:20 BST