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Naomi Barrow

Serial Crafter, Writer, Grief Club Member.

Naomi lives in York. She's a staff writer with The Blurt Foundation where she's lucky enough to work with a wonderful bunch of people. She spends her non-work time dabbling in all sorts of different arts and crafts, and attempting to work out how to adult. She also loves a good walk through some fields or up a big hill. In February 2014, Naomi's life changed when her Mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer. This kick-started Naomi's blogging, and since then her writing has explored various aspects of illness, death, and grief, (and sometimes mental health). Her full blog can be found at: www.naomi-jane.com
Grief... Two Years

Grief... Two Years On

I've always believed that you don't get over grief, you get along with it. You rub along with it as best you can. Two years on and I still hold this belief. I'm not over grief, I haven't come through it, but I'm learning to live life alongside it.
23/10/2017 16:55 BST
You Are Succeeding By

You Are Succeeding By Surviving

To all of you who are feeling pretty rubbish at the moment because everyone seems to be succeeding and progressing, and you feel like a sad, stuck, blob... I want to remind you how wonderful you are. Continuing to wake up every day despite all the setbacks you encounter is so brave. It's so admirable.
26/06/2017 12:37 BST
It's Not All In Our Head: Physical Symptoms Of

It's Not All In Our Head: Physical Symptoms Of Depression

Depression may impact other parts of our bodies, too - including our blood glucose levels, bone density, menstrual cycle, sex drive, and sleep. Additionally, any medication we take for depression can also have physical side effects.
01/06/2017 16:36 BST
To Those Of You Who've Lost All

To Those Of You Who've Lost All Hope

Eventually, in time, we will find glimmers of hope again. We will find cracks of light. We will begin find things to believe in, and our little pile of good things will grow. We might find them in the most unexpected of places - a podcast that speaks to us, the ability to read a page of text, or the joy of being able to taste a cup of tea again. It might take weeks, it might take months, it might even take years, but it will happen.
24/05/2017 16:47 BST
Grief Is Not A Mental

Grief Is Not A Mental Illness

It's important to go to your GP if we feel as though you're struggling with mental illness. But it's also important to remember that feeling is normal, feeling is okay. It's normal to feel sad, upset or low at times, especially if someone close to use has died.
03/05/2017 17:12 BST
Can We Please Talk About

Can We Please Talk About Death?

The only way we can start to break down the walls that death puts up, is to talk about it. The only way we can begin to 'trial and error' our way through the language surrounding death, is to begin to try, experience a few errors, and slowly work out the best way for these conversations to happen. Death and grief aren't a big black hole that needs to be avoided at all costs. Talking to someone about it won't make you fall in the hole and keep falling until you can't get up.
16/04/2017 16:33 BST
The Sound Of

The Sound Of Grief

Mum was a bundle of energy. As I frequently say to people - I'm not sure I remember her ever really sitting down until she became ill. She was always moving, always on-the-go, always running from one place to another doing various activities.
08/03/2017 12:31 GMT
Toast Didn't Kill My

Toast Didn't Kill My Mum

Until there is solid evidence that burning your toast, cleaning your teeth, and having some gravy-drowned roast potatoes with your Sunday dinner causes cancer, I suggest you take these articles (and any others with equally tenuous links) with a pinch of salt and carry on living your life. Life is short - make sure you live it, don't just survive it.
27/01/2017 15:44 GMT
Dear Mum, It's Been A Year Since You

Dear Mum, It's Been A Year Since You Died

The world is a little darker without you in it. A little duller. Your laugh no longer bounces off the walls of the house. Your arms no longer gather me into a hug when I walk through the door. Your smile doesn't greet me as I come up the drive.
23/10/2016 16:32 BST
Dear Friend Whose Mum Is Terminally

Dear Friend Whose Mum Is Terminally Ill

Your faith will be shaken. Whether it is faith in a higher power, in nature, in science, in people, or simply in good, it will be shaken because there is no rhyme or reason as to why this is happening. Eventually you will find faith in the little things again.
07/10/2016 16:02 BST
How Do You Celebrate A Dead Person's

How Do You Celebrate A Dead Person's Birthday?

24th September, Mum's 54th birthday (or do you stop counting when someone dies?) passed, just as every other day has. People often say that they hope their loved ones are celebrating wherever they are but I'm not sure I believe in heaven, or an afterlife. I'm not sure I believe that Mum is alive in another world, space or time. I think she's probably just dead. But her spirit and everything she's taught us will live on in us.
27/09/2016 16:49 BST
Children Can Bring Light To The Darkest Of

Children Can Bring Light To The Darkest Of Days

Cycling home today, I saw a lot of Mums pulling various uniform-clad little ones across traffic lights, book bags trailing behind them. I also saw a couple of late-teens-early-twenties-aged-child-looker-after-ers laughing and giggling with their rabble, jumping and skipping along the road.
12/09/2016 12:39 BST
There Was A Life Before

There Was A Life Before Cancer

Some of losing these things is just growing up. It's a natural part of life. But it's almost as though cancer came into my life and slowly took my interests, and what made me 'me', erasing them from my life one by one.
31/08/2016 17:32 BST
I've Lost My

I've Lost My Anchor

I'm floating around. Bouncing backwards and forwards like a ball stuck in a pinball machine. I feel like I'm flying away and losing control and there is nobody to catch me and bring me back. I try to communicate things, but my words get stuck and lost and float away, unheard.
08/08/2016 15:52 BST
A Letter to Parents Who Have a Child With

A Letter to Parents Who Have a Child With Depression

<img alt="thriving families.jpg" src="http://i.huffpost.com/gen/4511756/original.jpg" width="300" height="35" /> You do not need to be perfect. You don't need a degree in counselling to support your child. You just need to listen; listening to them can mean the world, and a hug can be very welcome. It might be tricky to talk in person; it might be easier to text or email, that's absolutely okay.
08/08/2016 09:20 BST
Here's to Those of Us Who Aren't Graduating This

Here's to Those of Us Who Aren't Graduating This Week

Here's to those of us whose lives got blown off course. Those who are continuing to get up and face the world every single day, despite seeing how far life will go to try and make sure we can't. Who are in new jobs, making new friends, creating a different life from the one we had always planned.
18/07/2016 17:03 BST
Dad: Picking Up Where We Left

Dad: Picking Up Where We Left Off?

Working out how we all relate to each other as a family is just one more difficulty in the mountain of change that occurs when someone dies. I know that we will get there and I'm really glad we're close enough to work through these things together.
20/06/2016 15:31 BST
Silence is

Silence is Noisy

Time is moving forward, life is changing, and good things are happening. None of it makes the absence disappear, and sometimes it makes the absence even more noticeable, but it's also essential. My life can't remain in 2015, it can't get stuck in a time when Mum was still alive - it's got to carry on, and that means that I've got to keep on doing what I can to live in the present.
03/06/2016 19:03 BST
Learning to Accept

Learning to Accept 'Okay'

Adding 'okay' to your vocabulary is so vital in today's society when there is pressure from every angle. When you're expected to do unpaid overtime, have a 'perfect' house, a 'perfect' body and a 'perfect' social life all at the same time (which, by the way, is entirely unrealistic). You are okay. You really are okay. And most of the time, so am I.
03/05/2016 16:23 BST