Torsten Klaus

Parenting Coach, Author and Stay-at-home Dad. I believe in Equal Parenting and Awesome Dads!

Author, Parenting Coach, Stay-at-home Dad. I believe in Co-Parenting and Awesome Dads!

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Dads love their kids! They're not babysitting when they're spending time with their children and they're not just the 'breadwinner' either. Dads are parents. Equal parents. So, it's about time to stop the usual labels and stereotypes. Modern dads want something different. Support. Yes, but what kind of support? We often jump to conclusions, give advice or try to convince people... well, we could change that by just listening, by showing empathy and - if appropriate, we could give feedback.

So, I'm here to talk about fatherhood and about the way dads of the 21st century could live a happy, content and relaxed life. Wanna join me? Awesome.

My articles have been featured in the GoodMenProject, Dads Round Table, APtly Said.

And yes, when there's some time left, I enjoy teaching Baby Massage to parents.
Raising Confident Children Through

Raising Confident Children Through Trust

Starting to trust our children is the very foundation of a well-connected relationship. Children (and, indeed us adults too) learn by trying. They give it a go. They might fail, they might succeed. It doesn't matter, as long as we provide a bit of a safety net in the background so that they won't ever get seriously hurt.
14/04/2016 17:11 BST
That's How I Deal With My Children's Meltdowns, Tantrums and Hard

That's How I Deal With My Children's Meltdowns, Tantrums and Hard Times

Connection, love and offering help is the better answer. Yes, your child might want and need his space for a moment. That's often like that with my son. Before he is able to accept my closeness, he asks for his own space. And I have to respect hat. But that also means I'm still there for him if he wishes to connect.
15/02/2016 11:41 GMT
Parents, Here Is How You Survive the Cold Winter

Parents, Here Is How You Survive the Cold Winter Days

So, in order to stay calm and relaxed about such grim winter days, I came up with a list of things you and your children can enjoy. Personally I printed my list and I keep it visible as my personal back-up plan when I feel the need for pulling a little joker from my sleeve.
24/02/2015 15:06 GMT
Dads, Here Is Your To-Do-List For This

Dads, Here Is Your To-Do-List For This Year!

Since I'm a father myself I can confirm this: time flies. It's such a precious time. And your children are only little once. Before you blink twice they've grown up and go their ways. You'll still be part of their life (hopefully), but it's nothing compared with the first years.
08/01/2015 09:51 GMT
The Only Person You Can Change Is

The Only Person You Can Change Is Yourself

Often, we don't even realise what's at the bottom of our partner's sudden outburst, tears, anger or other strong emotional reaction - we think it's because of xyz issue (not washing the dishes, flirting, going out with mates too often...). Whereas, in reality those buttons relate to fear of abandonment, rejection, intimacy or being unlovable - part of our individual life story.
23/09/2014 12:24 BST
Seven Awesome Tips for New

Seven Awesome Tips for New Dads

You might feel that no-one at work quite understands how you are feeling. Men need to off-load too. Some find it difficult to ask for help, especially with emotional issues, but please do, find someone you feel comfortable with (a friend, a relative or a professional) and let go, it will be a great relief.
15/07/2014 11:35 BST
No Hero, No Loser, Just be an Authentic

No Hero, No Loser, Just be an Authentic Dad

Parenting without a mask. Living with my feelings and showing my emotions. Expressing what I think and being clear on what I want. Yes, my children should see how I feel and how I deal with it. When I experience a very challenging and stressful moment, I try to tell my kids and my wife.
03/06/2014 09:04 BST
Why Kids Need Time to Be

Why Kids Need Time to Be Bored

I remembered my own childhood: the long and quiet (and sometimes lonely) moments, when I sat in my room or by the window and did NOTHING. Staring out of the window, a bit of day dreaming, watching people and cars passing by... being bored. At the same time I enjoyed exactly those moments. So peaceful and calm, so relaxing and refreshing at the same time.
14/05/2014 17:30 BST
I Want Mama! When Dads Get

I Want Mama! When Dads Get Rejected

"I don't wanna play with you. I want mama. She is more fun than you, I like her best!" I'm sure many fathers have heard their children saying those or similar expressions. And even worse, often they come out of the blue with no warning, or any justifiable reasons.
01/05/2014 18:37 BST
After the Babymoon - When Fathers Get

After the Babymoon - When Fathers Get Depressed

Many men feel guilty or even ashamed of these feelings, some resentful or angry at their partner or child. A lot of new dads find themselves alone with these feelings. Helpless and unable to share with anyone, they retreat emotionally as the pain of emotional isolation is so hard to bear. As a result of this, some men also decide to leave the family.
16/04/2014 16:57 BST

Dear Father-to-be...

I remember being very excited during my wife's first pregnancy. I couldn't wait for the due date to come nearer. I also felt a little nervous and unsure, but hey, I read books, my wife and I talked a lot and I thought we will be fine.
08/04/2014 13:08 BST
So, Who Is Doing the Washing Up

So, Who Is Doing the Washing Up Tonight?

Anyway, I believe we (men, dads, uncles, grandads) should get more pro-active at this matter. Let's bring some genuine equality into our homes and show that fathers of the new generation are just awesome. So gents, it's about time to pull up our sleeves and to get busy there.
26/03/2014 11:28 GMT
When We Turn Kids Into Praise

When We Turn Kids Into Praise Junkies

Why on earth are we using rewards? Is it the way we were conditioned as children? Always dependent on praise and positive judgements from our parents, teachers, friends - and later on in life, partners and bosses. And what happens to us when we don't get that praise? How do we feel then?
17/03/2014 13:19 GMT
Fathers Need Longer Paternity

Fathers Need Longer Paternity Leave

Here is the contradiction: Society wants men to spend more time with their kids and families (believe me, at least once a week I get a comment like "Oh it's good to see daddy being in charge" when in public), but employers and government do next to nothing to support them. I believe we need some fundamental changes here...
13/03/2014 17:17 GMT