24/02/2014 06:33 GMT | Updated 25/04/2014 06:59 BST

Get in Touch With What Makes You Feel Alive

Our lives can become filled with an ongoing conveyer belt of life stuff to fix. We believe that when we get to the end of the luggage belt of jobs we can then take some time off and be happy, maybe at the end of the week, end of the month, or the end of our lives in retirement. The problem is that we spent so long solving problems and getting things done that when we have free time, we have forgotten what makes us happy.

Our lifestyles often mean we have no reserves of energy to draw on if something happens and we find ourselves in crises. Many of us work flat out for years without taking a break. Our bodies are used to short bouts of effort and stress, but we are simply not designed for it to go on for years. We have to find what makes us happy and add it into our lives now for optimum health.

Here are three questions to keep you in touch with what you love.

1. What makes you like yourself the most?

I don't mean what do you enjoy or what do you like, I mean what makes you like YOU! I enjoy chocolate, but it doesn't make me like myself and I find the gym hard, but the gym does make me like myself. When you look in the mirror you like what you see when you have lived a life that has made you feel good about being who you are.

2. In whose company do you most feel yourself?

Make a list of the people who make you love yourself in their company.

Spend more time with those people and less with the ones who doesn't make you thrive.

3. If you could do anything with tomorrow how would you spend the day?

You have the money for it and you couldn't possibly fail what would it be?

A day doing something that makes you like yourself with people you love is a perfect day well spent.

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