13/10/2015 06:50 BST | Updated 12/10/2016 06:12 BST

Superficial Society: Why My Skin Controls My Life

The issue surrounding Ashley VanPevenage struck another nerve in me when it comes to how society views and deals with acne. For those of you who don't know, Ashley VanPevenage put out a photo of her skin before and after make up, revealing her bad skin. It was then unfortunately turned into a meme that states "I don't understand how people can do this and I can't figure out how to conceal a single pimple on my face." Ashley recently responded to the meme that went viral saying that she felt hurt by some of the comments she was receiving. Some would argue its her own fault for putting out this picture, however, whether that is true or not it just proves that we are living in a very superficial society where if someone exhibits some form of abnormality (not that acne makes you abnormal) that we are being scrutinised and stigmatised.

Even after Em Fords wonderful video highlighting that no one should be defined by their flaws, it is clear from the reaction to Ashley's meme that people are still completely judgemental when it comes to flaws in appearance. I am someone who suffers with my skin on a daily basis and if I am honest sometimes I do feel like my skin rules my life. It's only recently that I have come to understand why.

Based on the reaction both Em Ford and Ashley have received when revealing the acne they unfortunately possess under their make up, it is clear that acne isn't accepted in society, and people wonder why girls feel the need to layer on the concealer? I've read comments from people I know who have posted the photo of Ashley stating "this is why I'd take my girl swimming on the first date" and "how can guys trust girls when they look like this under make up". Disgusting. This is why my skin controls how I feel everyday, because of comments I constantly read like this that make me feel uncomfortable in my own skin.

I blame social media and the constant need to showcase how amazing we look, we are now under immense amounts of pressure to look how we do in our Instagram photos. So for someone who likes to wear make up to cover up the flaws that apparently separate them from society does this mean we are fake? No. I am tired of being ruled by my skin and feeling that I am "fake" because I am hiding my imperfections. Should I feel like a guy is going to run 5 miles once he realised I've got a few spots? No. Just proving that society has become ridiculously superficial to the point where people feel like they are defined by things such as acne. I think before people start making silly comments because of spots and so on maybe they should put themselves in that persons shoes and wonder what its like to deal with bad skin and feeling as if you have to cover it to "fit in".

However, what I have learnt from wonderful people such as Em Ford and Ashley is that no matter what silly comments you hear or read, you are beautiful in the skin you are in.