29/12/2015 05:19 GMT | Updated 26/12/2016 05:12 GMT

Have You Forgotten Who You Are?

Do you feel that you, and other people, have forgotten who you really are? Do you feel you are just someone's parent/partner/carer/sibling? Do you want to find your own identity again and boost your confidence?

No matter who you are and what you do, how successful, rich, recognised or revered your position, what would you like to do for you that you have never achieved, dared to think of, or hope for? How would you answer the following questions?

  • Are you living your life on purpose?
  • Is life the way you would like it to be?
  • Are you full of 'things' but still feel empty?
  • What would really make you happy?

Would you like to break down your barriers and boost your confidence and rediscover your inner self?

The first step is to break your old habits and thinking patterns that have prevented you from living your life to the full and realizing your potential. You need to create new habits, new patterns, new beliefs that will empower you and set you free!

It all begins with accepting and loving yourself just as you are. This is the key to your 'inner you' makeover; and ultimately the 'outer you' results will follow naturally! When you begin to feel great on the inside you will begin to ooze confidence. Material wealth, opportunities, your circumstances and health will begin to change and develop as the new inner happy you begins to become visible to everyone else!

Often the hectic pace of our everyday lives distracts us from listening to our inner voice, our intuition. It takes us away from thinking about what we would really like to do in our lives, the real stuff that makes us feel fulfilled, creatively inspired or happy. When this happens we feel out of control. Life loses its spark. We know something needs to change but we have no idea of how to even begin to achieve it.

One of the most common problems is that, even if you really wanted to make changes in your life, you don't know where to start. Your fears loom large, your self-belief is in shreds and you have forgotten what makes you happy because you haven't been happy for so long. You have become a shadow of whom you once were.

If you consider for a moment that your thinking patterns shape your destiny and if you don't believe you are deserving, if you don't think you are good enough, if you think you are too old, or you think you are not clever enough, if you think it's all over --- then, life will just carry on the way it is and nothing will change!

But, if you can begin to change the way that you see yourself and begin to think strong positive thoughts about your life, if you can begin to be grateful for the life you are living today and notice the abundance that surrounds you, everything can start to change for the better.

The very first step is learning to love yourself. Loving yourself is about being as gentle as you would be with a toddler who is growing and making mistakes as they learn, as gentle as you would be with a someone who looks in the mirror and doesn't like what he or she sees. Learning to love yourself is about re-educating the inner you to learn to stand up for the things that you intuitively know are right for you; it's about demanding the respect you deserve from everyone around you.

Learning to love yourself is going to be tough to begin with, but with some practice each and every day you will become stronger and clearer about where you are going.

A journey of self-discovery is required. Loving yourself is so very powerful and

effective. It will help you to develop healthy, balanced relationships, increase your confidence, and evolve a new you.

You may need help to do this and a Life Coach will be able to do just this. Your coach will take you through all the steps to discover the new you. They will help you to let go of all the negative emotions keeping you tied to the past and to accept yourself.