Living with people who are verbally abusive or verbally aggressive can be very demanding on your time and energy. But does
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Imagine you went on a first date with someone who was sarcastic, nasty, disparaging towards you. It's hard to believe that you would agree to a second date. Yet an abusive relationship can creep up on us and have us gradually accepting that behaviour, justifying it, perhaps even feeling that we are in some way responsible for it happening.
Abuse takes on many forms, as experts know all too well. You don't have to be physically beaten to be an abuse victim. Mental and emotional abuse can be (in the majority of the cases) actually more detrimental to you than the physical abuse as the former does not leave any obvious scars.
The problem with putting him on a pedestal is that energetically he will feel it and will probably feel that he can do anything he wants. He may even start treating you badly and let you down because he can feel he has the power. At this point, men get tired and are more likely to walk away.