Did things end well? Or not so well, and you explain the animosity by declaring that they were 'out of their mind', 'crazy' or 'unhinged'? This kind of language is harmful and enormously disrespectful of people with mental health problems, so we wouldn't normally use it - but here it's important to use those labels.
The important point to remember is you choose your own path. Along that path you choose your own way, and everyone will have something different and unique to them, we won't reach where we want to be all at the same time.
Escaping from abuse isn't as easy as 'just leaving'. You can't get up and walk away when you decide you've had enough. I wish it was that easy. It is often a long process, a long time of wanting to do it but not knowing how. Then comes how to do it, you need a window of opportunity, a carefully devised plan of action to minimise any threat to your safety.
A comedian has written about a past abusive relationship in a frank and moving Instagram post. On Monday Beth Stelling, a
Raising a question that is rarely addressed... A woman was raised in a dysfunctional family. When she was a baby, she was
Most people like or need to think that abusive relationships are black and white, but they're not are they? We know that. The abusive men we love or have loved don't start out hurting us at the beginning nor are they always total monsters. That's what makes it all so confusing and so hard.
n Fifty Shades, we see the egregious result of every Hollywood 'ending as beginning' in a way that still lionises the abuser. Hollywood's classic arc is to portray a controlling man only up to the point where he 'gets' the girl.
Those changes will empower you. Those words will put you back in control of your life. There isn't a nameless "something" out there trying to keep you from being able to do something; it's right there inside yourself in that horrible little "C" word. Only you can make it disappear and put yourself back in the driver's seat.
There are many, many reasons why women don't leave an abusive relationship. I believe that most of the reasons stem from fear. Most of the fears are understandable, but often irrational.
My extensive experience of being involved in unhealthy relationships has permitted me to explore domestic violence in great detail. I have analysed the dynamics of such relationships and the traits of the couples involved as well as the causes of this unbearable behaviour that can have tragic consequences.