At one time I thought that women could save the world. Now I know we can't. We're too busy judging each other. Sad, but true. It starts with hairstyles and clothes, before moving on to our figures and boyfriends, and then lands with a merciless thud on Motherhood.
The practice of carrying babies in soft slings or carriers, known as "babywearing", is becoming more common in modern parenting circles. Truth be told, however, the practice of carrying children is far from newfangled; it is ancient and part of the human story.
We could teach our children that whether they pee standing up or sitting down should not make the slightest difference to whether they earn a fair wage, or feel safe walking home, or have their words taken seriously.
I believe that limitations are self-created through fear. In order to grow and evolve we need to let go of this fear that we hold onto. I have found as I have let go of my fears I have stopped putting them on my children.
Parenting labels can make those who don't follow such an approach feel inferior or worry that they're a terrible parent. They can also make those who do follow such approach feel guilty when perhaps they just want a break from it or to steer off course slightly.
It's bedtime Sophie. You have to learn to self settle, otherwise you will be too dependant on him and that's not acceptable. You will never learn to be a cold and detached adult if he gives in and cuddles you. Sorry but its best for everyone.
In three short months my son starts home-schooling. In my head that statement reads slightly differently; it reads more along the lines of "holy shit we're about to become responsible for the entire future well-being of our child!!"
The world is watching and analysing the physiques of women in the public eye as a kind of first-world sport, and hypothesising obsessively about their diets, feeding the consciousnesses of young girls with drivel about who they should be and what they should look like and telling them they really should care an awful lot about those things, or else.
It's fitting, really, that in the month I've assigned, "Weaning with Respect Month", another self-appointed baby sleep trainer has taken the opportunity to show how little he/they knows/know about newborn babies, their nutritional needs, their slumber needs, and basically anything about anything related to any of their needs.
I've heard it a lot over the last few years, both overtly and also from people telling me the wisdom of their own parenting approach in very pointed tones as if it might lead to an epiphany where I throw out my slings while bemoaning the fact that my children will never learn to walk.