Going through loss or bereavement teaches you a thing or two about attachment. Love, connection, compassion and empathy are human conditions. They're innate, genetic and what makes us truly unique amongst the animal kingdom.
What really is a healthy, loving relationship?
Until I started therapy recently, I had no idea that this was even a thing. I explained my situation and various bits and bobs and my therapist told me she thinks I could be suffering from attachment anxiety. I'm like: 'what?'.
Carrying a baby provides this loving touch; a great sense of familiarity and normality for a newborn. Being able to hear the muffled thump of a heartbeat and the rhythm of regular breathing, gentle pressure from arms that means secure rest and peaceful sleep, a scent that means safety and nourishment all help to activate the parasympathetic system and create calm, which facilitates the building of bonds.
Some Thoughts on Encouraging Reflective Self-Critique for Human Rights Activists & Advocates and Seekers of Social Justice
I find myself asking these questions and being concerned with the issues they raise in relation to my human rights advocacy and social change efforts and those of others.
As I recalled my earliest memories I was keen to impress on the group that I don't look back and see my time in foster care as a negative, my expression wasn't from feeling sorry for myself, I completely understand that in the absence of my biological father, my very young mother, too young to even consider a woman would want to get herself together after having me at the age of 15 and, in some respects I think it was very brave decision to take. I didn't say this in front of the room of kids but I'd prefer to be fostered than to have been aborted and to not have had the privilege of life in the first place!
I am a mum of two whose ethos, I would say, is pretty sympathetic to "attachment parenting". In my view, we are basically mammals, and natural birth, breastfeeding, co-sleeping and baby-wearing are all normal and natural things for mothers and babies. Here's the thing, I am also a qualified paediatric nurse.
Frank Field has hit the headlines again this week talking about how we measure poverty and improve life chances for children.