Men need a lot of help they aren't getting these days. A lot of them feel lost, confused, left out, and frustrated. In observing my own work and the work of many other men through the years, I've seen some common factors that feed the unhappy, unsettling pattern of feeling lost in one's own life as a man:
As a teenager I suffered terribly with anorexia and was sectioned into an adult psychiatric unit to keep me alive. By the time I was 20 years old I was ready to be integrated into society via a rehab unit as I had lost all my social skills.
I recognised a while ago that my coping strategy was people pleasing. I knew exactly why I adopted it and I did the forgiveness work around it. I worked on my self worth and started practicing showing up more authentically and empowered.
Why are we falling prey to this comparative culture, that instead of inspiring creativity only feeds our insecurities?
As Theresa May repeatedly droned on about 'strong and stable leadership' during the UK's recent general election campaign, she was doing what all politicians and many business leaders are taught - pick a message and find every opportunity to repeat it. Even if people don't agree at first, at some unconscious level they will start to believe it.
It really troubles me to see this happen in people all the time, it's like they go along blissfully unaware that they're gonna die. Listen to me people, we only have a finite amount of time here! Please don't let insecurity and fear stop you from sharing your gifts with the world.
As the Happyologist®, the most common question I get asked is, "Are you always happy?". To this, I confidently respond, "No, I'm human." It took me years to fully understand this question and to respond to it confidently. Why? Because I, just like the rest of society, had totally misunderstood what happiness is.
We cannot deny the influence and freedom that porn, Netflix and social media have given people to normalise their sexuality.
Social media diminishes our capacity to create genuine connections and the opportunity to have more emotionally satisfying conversations.
I've heard it claimed more than once that, in focus groups, women universally love Dove's 'Campaign for Real Beauty' positioning. Nonetheless, when it comes to getting ready for a Friday night out, these very same women will reach for a more aspirational brand instead.
Dear feminists who do not believe trans women are real women, I have a message for you. Your feminism can never be truly feminist, because feminism is inclusive of women from all walks of life, and that includes trans women.
Sometimes I still have people asking me whether I'm really intending to leave my hair this way. And I'm happy to say 'Yes, I am'. Allowing my hair to be natural makes me feel freer, stronger, more real. And I'm glad to have said goodbye to the young girl who felt she had to look a certain way.
The way Taylor Swift got to the top was by coming across as incredibly grounded and honest: super-talented but still the girl next door. The reason she lost her way was because she started hanging out with models and film stars and drifting away from her roots.
I believe in being real and authentic. Certainly to friends and family. To those who really care and want an honest answer when they ask, "How are you?"
Perhaps, jealousy is not as much about nursing ill feelings for your perception of someone else's "easier gains" than it is a message from you, to you.
A shift from celebrity leadership to servant leadership will position politics and organisations to face into the future not into the past; to tackle the known and as yet unknown challenges that lie ahead in the 21st Century.
I was listening to the commentators discussing Jeremy Corbyn's win of the leadership of the Labour party on the radio this
Team GB is a great brand that has carefully built its relevance in our lives. And the vast majority of people believe - in what they stand for, the purpose they set out to achieve and now after an extraordinary two weeks the substance that has been assembled in their extraordinary medal tally the underpins their brand story.
As a trans woman I had many years of having to use the 'wrong' toilet facility and it was terrifying. I always felt exposed, vulnerable, like something dangerous could happen. I didn't want to see men peeing or hear men's' conversations, my friends went into the women's and I prayed for an empty men's bathroom.
We value authenticity in the museum, and it's always nice, when visitors ask, "That's not real, is it?" to be able to say "Oh yes, everything is real". The Mary Rose may only be 40% of a ship, but she's 100% genuine.