be kind to yourself
After a year of lockdowns, quarantines and self-isolation, we could all do with a little joy right now. And while you can’t always control what happens to you, you can control how you respond to it. We’ve asked therapist Lucy Beresford for tips on how to stay positive and keep our spirits up during challenging times.
Learn to treat yourself as you would a best friend, in a way that's encouraging, supportive and without blame. Remind yourself of the things that you have already achieved and remind yourself that one bad day doesn't mean that you've blown everything.
In the light of Chinese New Year and The Year of The Goat upon us, it seems the perfect time to demonstrate how bringing out your inner goat like tendencies can actually help you achieve the results you want.
We all need food and rest, so why do we often completely ignore one of the most important meals of the day - yes lunch? When our concentration is waning and our bodies are calling out for movement, why do we continue to sit chained to our desks, figuratively banging our heads against the brick wall that is our work?
My OCD is about being Over Consciously Detailed. In effect, what that means is, nothing is ever quite good enough. Well, that's not true. It means I'm too fussy for my own good. No, let me rephrase that, I'm very particular about my writing and my work.
Maybe as you are a single person you really don't buy into this sentiment. So how can you survive and keep your sanity? There are so many ways to make sure you enjoy yourself whether on your own or with a good friend.
She told me things would improve. She listened. And she never betrayed the fact that she was up to her eyeballs with needy people and their demands. She certainly never let on that this stingy pocket of time was the only time she had to herself.
These are typically our vulnerable times, the times when we reach for that one reliable friend, the quick fix that sustains us and never lets us down. It's often only later that we berate ourselves for being weak and picking the 'easy' option that's not such a good friend after all.
Every woman I know, at one time or another, has spoken to themselves or about themselves in a way they wouldn't even dream of talking about their loved ones. This is having a massively negative impact on their lives - on our lives. And it has got to stop.