On the whole things are bearable, though it never ceases to amaze me how they manage to come up with new and inventive ways to torture a person in the name of making them better. Susan Sontag (her again) said that "the treatment is worse than the disease", and the whole thing does feel incredibly counterintuitive at times.
It's really important to listen to the voice of a woman and what she really wants and what she really needs. Ruth Kennedy is one of those really amazing women. She kind of has it all. She's a wonderful friend.