equal parenting

Most men of my father's generation never changed nappies, were clueless about baby developmental milestones and would not have been able to put up a ponytail to save their lives! But they worked incredibly hard to make sure their families were provided for.
Now, a year on, I wouldn't change a thing. Both my husband and I were fortunate enough to spend some special one-to-one time with our wonderful daughter. Both of us also got to experience the different worlds
Anyway, I believe we (men, dads, uncles, grandads) should get more pro-active at this matter. Let's bring some genuine equality into our homes and show that fathers of the new generation are just awesome. So gents, it's about time to pull up our sleeves and to get busy there.
UK government policy on parental leave, for example, has been set according to a generalised assumption that men want to take more time off, and work more flexibly, to be with their children. Yet the simple, statistic-backed facts support the opposite conclusion: men aren't yet using even close to the wiggle room they already have.
I will admit to having two phobias: Barry White & spiders. To this day I am haunted by the words of a local radio DJ who proclaimed: "Ah that was the smoooooth smooooth sounds of Mr Barry White, I'm sure you'll agree - he really does make love to your ears."
It is worth us all remembering that mums are more likely to pursue and succeed with breastfeeding if the father is actively involved right from day one, and that baby-father bonds are stronger when dad plays a role.
Given that couples who share childcare more equally are actually more likely to have happier relationships and are more likely to stay together. We need a broader manifesto about what it ought to mean to be a dad in 21st Century Britain. This would complement - not contradict - the father's rights movement's aims.
I hear all the time that the woman has chosen to stay at home and look after the children, while the man has chosen to go to work. Given all these overt and subtle pressures, I wonder whether these are really free choices at all. The only solution is for men to actively take up the mantle of childcare, right from the very earliest days of our children's life.
Surely the best way to ensure that both parents can and do play an active role in their child's life is to highlight the benefits of an active involvement and to place an equal role of the value of both parents, not just on separation, but at all stages of a child's life and at all levels of society.