My mother died nearly six years ago, I haven't been able to write about it until now.
These days I'm hearing more and more about the stress and heartache redundancy brings, so I decided to write a very personal piece reflecting the gamut of emotions I experienced whilst going through this very same process.
As children, many of us were taught the old adage that "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me." But while broken bones heal, the damage done by hastily spoken words rarely does and the pain can be multiplied manyfold when words are left unsaid.
Life happens. It doesn't matter how positive or balanced and centred you are, there are going to be times when you are knocked sideways. Times when your carefully organised life is turned upside down and you get knocked for six. Life happens!
The challenge for a lot of us is that we try to use gratitude as a tool, to avoid, or distract ourselves from the other emotions we're feeling and experiencing. In short, to make ourselves feel better when we're really feeling something else instead.
At some time or another we've all experienced our share of emotional hurt. And often when we're hurt, we dump our feelings on others or speak harshly. But this doesn't always work. Getting stuck with the hurt and moping around feeling sorry for ourselves also doesn't work. Suppressing hurt also doesn't work. Why?
Really?! The joy of being misunderstood? Yes, bare with me for a second and just keep reading. Misunderstandings can be like sharing your home with a stranger: awkward, uncomfortable and frustrating. Even worse, when the stranger is supposed to be your best friend, parent or partner, and the intimate space is your relationship. No joy yet.
One of the most destructive emotions is the emotion of betrayal, how can it be that someone who was once so close can turn into the 'enemy'?
Swearing can provide effective relief from pain - but not if people swear many times a day, according to research. Experts